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‘Andrew Tate is a symptom, not the problem’: why young men are turning against feminism
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 04 Feb 2024
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The problem isn't new at all either. Someone on the right, just figured out how to create the incel culture and weaponize it. It's sexism all the way down on both sides when there shouldn't be sides at all. It's the culmination of the social construct known as gender.
The problem is not just that someone on the right talks to men. The problem is, nobody on the "left" does. Tell me, what is the "left's" ideal of a happy and successful man?
The Fantastic Masculinity of Newt Scamander
Freedom from work
Men would have time to make friends, cultivate hobbies, and meet girls if they weren't working multiple jobs with odd hours or taking as much overtime as they can.
Liberals don't want to talk about reducing the amount of work men have to do to keep up, though. They only want women to work more!
Yeah, may the almighty line keep going up.
But that's beside the point, work is one side of it, my point is that there is no "ideal man" picture out there, nothing to aspire to. The ideal male identity is only described in context of how they treat women. Which is important sure, being kind to everyone, but still, what makes a man these days?
Kids are asking these questions, looking for role models, and all they see answering is Tate. Everyone else in the mainstream just tells them that their ideal is "not to be a rapist".
Why don't boys look up to their fathers? I'll tell you! It's because daddy is always at work.
Girls have the same problem with their mothers also working, but the schooling system has actually (partially) solved the problem. Teaching, especially pre-K, is dominated by women. Even if class sizes are too large for any one female teacher to fulfill the role of a model they still have a huge field to choose from and I think that helps a lot. We need men to become teachers if we aren't going to liberate men from work.
I get your point. I am not saying I didn't cry a bit the first time I actually listened to Cats In The Cradle's lyrics. Or the other times.
Also, I'd rather have my kid have their own role model, not to have to share a government issued one with 30 other kids. Fuck.
In that case, men need to work less so we don't have to use pre/elementary/middle/high schools to replace the parental figure.
Also maybe abolish the nuclear family and go back the premodern gens (i.e. extended family community) so that boys have lots of men in their family to look up to. Even if they don't have a dad they might have an uncle, grandpa, or one of their 20 older cousins to look up to.
It's as if you are saying people should be brought up by their families and not mass media, ads and random influencers
I'm really worried about the iPad toddlers and who they're going to grow up to be.
This is one of the reasons I'm terrified to have kids. How the hell do you deal with other parents' failures? Your kid either gets to be a mindless consoomer due to peer pressure, or a social pariah because he doesn't live his life on a screen.
Hell, I have problems with maintaining ties IRL. How is a kid supposed to deal with that?