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I have a cousin, 35, Male, who has always been susceptible to conspiracy. He listened to Rush and other right wing favs when we were younger, and after a mildly messy divorce, I’m afraid he’s pivoted to blaming women for everything (including, and especially, male urges).

Along with his heroes, he’s committed to anti-intellectualism. I almost miss the tea party days.

Recently he’s been reading self published books with titles like “Analyzing the ROI on Pursuing Women,” and “Why women deserve less.” They bizarrely juxtapose tidbits from economics onto ravings about value and gender that don’t make sense. Weird that he trusts random opinions and not researchers who at least provide rigorous reasoning for their theories, but I digress.

As a lady, it’s hard to care about the dude, but I do feel like I should say -something-. Does anyone have ideas?

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Sounds like he is not well, messy divorce can push someone over that line of hate.

Question is what happened? No one just wakes up and starts hating women. That would count their mother, grandmother, sister, friends, colleagues... something happend (probably in the same order) and he ended up over the limit.

Therapy helps a lot. I don't think you can fight irrational fear with with any kind of rational proofs.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I mean, a messy divorce can do that. I am not the same person after my ex-wife cheated on me and is now acting not taking good care of our kids when they are there.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks, we are working on selling therapy.