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Men over 30, what is the hardest part of balancing a work / home life? (dormi.zone)

submitted 5 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Would it be making the time for vacations or gatherings? Or if your job requires overtime, you lose out on the time with your family. Do you ever speak up about it or just let things even out?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

I'm naturally passive and picky. I also fixate on tasks and avoid human interaction. These traits are perfect for my job, so I find it very rewarding.

These traits are terrible for parenting.

As a result, I need to set up hard barriers around balance. I don't work outside 9-5 unless required to. When required to, I find ways of spending more time with my fam. I make a point of finding activities that I can do with my kids, so I'm not so distant.

It sucks. I feel like I'm perfectly suited to be a corporate cog, but I need to work hard to be a nominally functional family member.