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[–] [email protected] 29 points 7 months ago (3 children)

My mother posted this unironically to her Facebook feed. Said ‘we need to eclipse the bad guys’.

Times like this I wish I was still talking to her and she knew I was queer.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Times like this I wish I was still talking to her and she knew I was queer.

Ugh, same. I broke all contact with mine a little before the pandemic and now a tiny part of me will always be dying to know how deep into the cult she sank.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago (2 children)

part of me will always be dying to know how deep into the cult she sank.

It’s the reason I still stalk her Facebook lol

I broke contact with my mom 2 years ago on my birthday when she (middle school dropout) decided to tell me I (a college grad who learned how to research validity and reliability of various claims and sources) am a gullible fool for taking the Covid vaccine and that I needed to get on YouTube to do my research. It was the final straw of disrespect piled on a thousand other small things.

I don’t miss her.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm glad you've got peace with that but I don't envy you for having to go through it ❤️

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

I never would have chosen it, that’s for sure. I may not miss her but I do experience grief over the situation often.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sounds like your childhood must have been a ball. I'm sorry.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

She was a lot better before. She ended up with a ruptured disc in her lumbar in like 91 or something and the only treatment back then was a discoctomy, which is a brutal surgery that usually leads to a cascade of disc herniation and rupturing. She ended up having 11 surgery’s over the next 25 years and during that time became very addicted to her pain killers. Then, in 09 she got breast cancer which has been pretty hard on her body, and has left her with literal brain damage today. She always had toxic traits, but her sickness has made it so much worse over the last 15 years in particular.

To boot, we were fundie Christians and I had no idea I was queer, I only knew I never fit in and couldn’t figure out why. I was so isolated i never had anyone that could model what it might be like to be queer or to understand myself. Add in some mild bipolar, ADHD, and a touch of autism and it’s a recipe for failure to self identify. It wasn’t until my 30’s that I started putting the pieces together that maybe I’m not a boy and oh I actually like boys too.

Most of my misery and trauma growing up was more religious than anything.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Religious trauma is a big problem and haunts a lot of people. I'm sorry.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Lol. Send her a letter saying you are queer AF and listen for the blastwave in the distance.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I used to be queer. I still am but I used to be too.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm sorry, English isn't my first language. Is that a typical way to say about a state (e.g. being queer) which has begun in the past and still present?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

No worries!

Contextually, saying ‘was’ is inclusive of the past and present. But to your credit, saying ‘I am’ would have been more precise.

My quote is a line from a famous comedian, Mitch Hedberg, who was doing a bit about drugs when he said ‘he used to do drugs’, paused, and then said ‘I still do but I used to too’. It’s a play to subvert expectations because when someone says they ‘used to do something’ they usually mean that they don’t anymore.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Thank you!

btw, my first conscious effort to learn English properly was fueled by another comedian: Eddie Izzard.