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You can still get the hair and fit! I always see these "unrealistic transition goals" and I'm like, "you know you can do that look without expecting you'll be as hot as a cartoon or model, right?"
It might even be that the look could never fit your vibe, but there will still be other looks that would work amazingly. I compare myself to others too; we all do it. Even super hot people compare themselves unfairly. It's just how we think about our own appearance by default.
Whenever I feel that way, I try to remember what it was like to hate literally everything about myself. If past me could see current me in the mirror, even though I'm still pre-HRT, she'd probably cry over seeing herself for the first time. I'm still motivated to look better, only now I don't feel hopeless because I appreciate what does work. This isn't easy at all, as you need to recognize and think critically about your own thoughts. Meditation helps, but it never comes naturally.
but what if my unrealistic transition goal is literally a non-human form?
jk
kinda ^^'