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There is a big difference between mild NSFW and full on porno. Suppose there is a News story with photo/video but it's a little bit graphic or violent. Nobody is jacking off to that. Maybe shouldn't view it at work, but in the library is fine.

Maybe it's a funny meme pic but there's a nip slip situation going on. No biggy; it should probably be tagged NSFW. Probably don't want it showing up at actual work. But I want to enable this kind of content away from work without a bunch of actual porn showing up in my feed.

There should be a porn tag. It's not the same as NSFW.

EDIT: The two main devs have done some amazing work here, but as I understand it they are totally booked for the foreseeable future. My rust chops aren't quite up to snuff (yet) and my frontend chops are non-existent, so it might be a quite while before I'm up to speed enough to make a meaningful contribution. In the meantime just thought I'd point out the issue.

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[–] [email protected] 81 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Agreed. I don't want all that mildly NSFW content when I'm scrolling porn.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

Made me smile. Thanks

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Reddit moment...wait no

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[–] [email protected] 64 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (6 children)

I'm trying to create a healthy porn community on lemmy. And the hostility of lemmy towards it is worrisome in my opinion. People are calling for de-federating lemmynsfw, people file false reports on my NSFW-only communities, the majority of instances ban porn,…

IMHO, there should be only two tags "NSFW", "NSFL". (= Not Safe For Life, meaning gore) There was this running-joke on reddit last year "when I was younger 'NSFW' on /r/all meant boobs, now it's most likely a video of a bomb being dropped from a drone blowing up russian soldiers."

I don't think we should rate the degree of NSFW or NSFL. Where is the line? I assume a topless lady is NSFW, not porn. But is a fully nude woman or man NSFW, or porn? If it's still "just" NSFW, what about two fully naked men holding each other penises? Or a woman on her knees looking at a penis without touching it, with her mouse open? This is a very fine line.

I'm in favour of most european broadcasting laws: visible nipples are fine as long as they're not sexuality, but "16" or "18" rating is recommended. Visible anus, vulva or penis makes "18/Unrated" mandatory, whether there is intercourse or not.

I would translate this to lemmy to "anything with nipples, anus, vulva or penis visible is NSFW, regardless of intercourse" No grading of "NSFW" or "porn."

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

From what I see, that specific post was only because it sounded like lemmynsfw would allow loli. For me the biggest issue is that the porn would occasionally flood my front page because of that one bug (that got fixed), I really don't want to see porn when I'm just browsing (but I have nothing against it existing on Lemmy).

For me what makes something porn would be the intent: is it made/shared for sexual arousal. Something can be porn without any nudity, and you can have any amount of nudity without it being porn.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Exactly. It is the intent behind the content. Full nudity does not equal porn. Covered sexual organs does not mean it is not porn.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

The biggest issue I have with defederating is that you basically exclude every member of that instance from discussion on other instances even when they keep their nsfw post completely within their own instance.

If I'm on Instance A that defederated Instance B because it's NSFW friendly, then I also can't see comments from members of Instance B in completely unrelated comunities on other Instances.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Exactly this. Regardless if it's softcore or hardcore, porn or lewd is nsfw. I don't mind that stuff at home, but even blurred out images I don't want my coworkers walking by.

NSFL stuff I generally never want to see, at least not as someone I randomly scroll by

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Don't get me wrong, I think there should be porn on lemmy. It's great. I just don't want to get kicked out of the library. Or have a situation where I'm on the train/bus and some toddler is in the seat behind me looking over my shoulder.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I agree that the de-federation and attitude is worrysome, but I disagree on your stance towards more tags. Servers that disallow NSFW now, might choose to allow NSFW but not porn. Servers that allow NSFW now, are likely to keep allowing both. Servers just don't want to deal with liability and weird protocol quirks showing people stuff they don't want, so they'll ban any category that's likely to include stuff they don't want. More fine-grained tagging means they can ban a smaller selection of things.

I'm all for various kinds of tags to indicate why someone might not want to view certain content.

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I would rather see gore have its own tag before porno, personally. I don't mind getting smut in my feed, but I'd rather not see a corpse/someone die in the same feed/category as nudity.

Honestly, multiple nsfw categories would be great

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Then OP's problem is already solved. NSFW means porn, NSFL means gore.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think his point was that there is a kind of lighter type of NSFW, lighter than porn. NQSFW Not Quite Safe For Work

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

Interesting, I'm still pretty new here, and I've only seen nsfw so far

[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Mastodon has a system of user-definable Content Warnings that hide the rest of the post and any media attached. Due to just how broad NSFW can be something like this may be a good idea. Maybe you're ok with nudity, but not porn. Maybe you're ok with porn but not (certain act/fetish/whatever). Maybe you're ok with violence, but not dead bodies. Lots to think about there. Defining all of these in advance or trying to come up with categories such that it is actually useful to everyone sounds like a path to madness and fetishes you never even knew existed.

These can also be used for things that aren't necessarily NSFW, but also uncomfortable topics such as "miscarriage", "cheating", or even just "spoilers for ". They're pretty versatile.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I didn't know that about Mastodon. That sounds pretty cool!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

It is excellent! I wish more people would use this great feature more often.

Posting about the current events in Russia is easier if everyone has the choice to see it or not.

https://fosstodon.org/users/tcely/statuses/109423576478406730

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Agreed.

I feel like a pink "XXX" tag would suffice.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Lol you definitely got the color scheme "nailed" down

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And a yellow tag for GORE would be nice as well

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Ohhh yeah, or maybe like a nice bile color. Like a neon green/yellow mix,

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Where is the line between NSFW and XXX?

Nudity? Which nudity? Are nipples NSFW but vulva is XXX?

Multiple people being nude at the same? A photo of a guy holding his penis to masturbate is NSFW, but a photo of a nudist beach is XXX?

Sexual contact? A person is kneeling in front of a penis with their mouth open it's NSFW? But as soon as they hold it, it's XXX?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (3 children)

NSFW = nipple.

XXX = nipple with cum on it.

GORE = nipple on the floor, separated from its human.

It's pretty simple bro.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago

"Not Safe For Life"

There's worse things on the net than dodgy porn

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Nobody is jacking off to that. Never subestimes nobody.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

As they say, there is a fetish for everything.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Challenge accepte... Wait what?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Came to make this comment.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

I personally like the roulette every time I make a risky click. Am I going to get some horrific medical gore that doctors use to desensitize themselves, or am I going to get cock and ball torture, maybe it's a sports illustrated calendar girl, or bread nailed to a tree. Who knows? It's the internet. A terrible place where you can't trust someone didn't intentionally mislabel something just to trick you into watching Rick Astley busting some sick dance moves to a catchy song.
I suppose they could make differentiating nsfw types an optional thing though.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

You just look at the community name to determine what is hiding under the NSFW tag.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Simple, [Content Warning Tag]-(User Description Of Content Warning)

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Doesn't solve the filtering issue though

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

I know I'm late to the game commenting in here, but I think it's important to distinguish whether we're talking about people merely adding descriptors to their NSFW posts or whether we're talking about a whole tagging system being implemented into the Lemmy protocol. Adding a full fledged tagging system to Lemmy similar to Mastodon would be a pretty big undertaking. But anything short of that would feel like a kludgey, bolted-on solution. The NSFW flag + user added descriptors is the only way for users to go about it for now.

I do think a conversation about adding tags into Lemmy is worthwhile because tags could potentially allow for a lot of neat things. E.g. we might eventually be able to start making custom feeds by aggregating content from multiple similar communities across instances. It would also let users filter tags they don't want to see at all (regardless of whether it's NSFW) or don't want to see by default (i.e. blur the images until they're selected). But I know the Lemmy devs probably don't want it to end up looking like a Reddit/Mastodon hybrid or just become kbin, so this is something they'll consider carefully. I think right now they're rightly focused on database and federation performance and the broader dev community is helping with more immediate needs like spam account mitigation. They've gotta stop the bleeding and get a solid foundation established before building major changes like a full fledged tagging system.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Full fledged tagging system would be cool and help with discoverability as well as filtering.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

So maybe a tag system where each tag also has a type. E.g. NSFW, flair, category, where each type have multiple possible tags. Also maybe some tags can be set by the poster and some can be set by mods or maybe they could even be set by the users where the top-n most chosen are visible on the post.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm thinking that having a generic "NSFW" flag and then a bunch of different tags you could use as modifiers would be better. "NSFW" would trigger the "blur/hide/whatever this" code, and you could filter based on #porn, #gore, #semprini, whatever, for the specific kind of stuff you're interested in/not interested in.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm very defensive when it comes to NSFW. But I think "NSFW flag with mandatory reason from a drop down" (e.g. nudity, sex, violence, gore, explicit-language) is the best solution which satisfy both. That is actually a great idea.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I wonder if there's a way to block porn on main feed but keep a side one for when I want to see it. I like me a nice ass, but its awkward to have one shoved when I just want to check news and see prequel memes.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean, people had "alt" and "throwaway" accounts on that other site for just such occasions. Not sure how good support for account switching is in any of the apps. It would also be an opportunity to explore another instance if you wanted (especially if your instance bans/restricts such things).

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Good idea. I think switching accounts in Jerboa is pretty easy so I might end up doing that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Account switching in Jerboa is a breeze, very similar to how Infinity does it

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I think this is the most important feature I'm missing. I want to see NSFW stuff but not porn

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Hey, sorry I'm late to the party.

I would be willing to have a compromise in the we tag porn submissions with a trailing underscore or another identifiable but not intrusive symbol that users can then filter out.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I think, instead of on/off filtering mechanisms like block, ban, de-federation, NSFW, etc, we should be able to share filtering preferences. Like, an instance curates their own and you can choose to adopt it or not, customize it, etc. Every new user would start out in G-rated land, and could "whitelist" their way to enlightenment.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Gimme the option to show only actual NSFW-tagged posts for starters, not just every post that happens to mention the concept...

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