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I linked to this thread, only because it's what got me thinking about this topic again. Me and my SO talk about phones occasionally, regarding our kids. Neither of them are anywhere close to an age where they might have one. However, as time goes on, we find ourselves so repelled by the idea of the kids having a fully fledged smartphone.

Given the reality that all social media apps are effectively skinner boxes, training you to use them more, the idea of allowing kids on them feels like offering a 10-year-old a cigarette. I have to remind myself that the internet I grew up on is dead and gone. I may have been exposed to some weird ass shit in AOL chat rooms, but there wasn't any kind of algorithmic content feed keeping me itching and scratching.

So far, the only time the oldest uses an iPad is when they use mine, and the only apps they use are Procreate for drawing, and an app that helps kids learn to write letters and words. Watching TV is probably the worst thing we get into at home when it comes to just pure content consumption, but we keep the list of watchable stuff pretty small, and regularly axe shows we feel don't meet our standards when we venture off that list.

I guess this has evolved into a larger discussion about media consumption as I have typed this out, but at the end of the day, that's what's happening on these phones, right?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

Wait until your kids are 12+. Talk to them about the things they like, watch, and see without being judgmental. Set up content firewalls.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Around 13+ should be good for them, to get their own devices... and have the talk

(if they're going to watch anything weird, just tell them to keep it to themselves, unless OPSEC or mental health is involved, and that social media is not real life; a small warning should suffice, since they'll prbly experience sooner than you think)

Until then, all devices for them should be considered collective family personal property....

As much as possible, get them socializing or smthn', anythin' to not lead to them to their phones, in recourse....

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