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[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Save your sister, she is not okay. You are not an inferior person, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are not responsible for everything. Your boundaries matter. Your feelings matter. You will be okay.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago

She invited you over at 2am cuz she wanted the D you fucking idiot

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago

You fight much bigger problems that others around you. Your way of thinking is definitely not normal, seek diagnosis and help. Life is not supposed to be this complicated mentally.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago

Tell Mama to divorce him now. Give her this letter.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago

"You're trans lul, and don't worry about coming out your mom is nice and dad doesn't give a fuck" Honestly would probably make my childhood harder but would make my mid/late teens onward a lot less confusing and painful.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

Hit the gym and stay consistent about it. Not only will you feel better about yourself you'll also be able to manage the physical pain you will have a lot better.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Ask that girl out JFC!

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

You’re trans and mom’s headaches aren’t normal she needs to get them checked out

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Whatever comes of it—whether you get hurt, or whether you get suspended—you just need to lay your bullies out.

They won’t ignore you. They won’t go away, no matter how hard you work to be unnoticeable. It’s trying to do that—to be invisible so that they’ll leave you alone—that will change the course of your life for the worse. You won’t be a high achiever, you won’t go to a good school, you’ll just coast, forever suffering the damage they did, and regretting that you didn’t do anything about it.

The only thing they’ll understand is the kind of violence that says you’re not worth fucking with. Don’t worry what Mom will think. Don’t worry about the pain of a punch or two. Don’t worry about your “permanent record”. All that will be temporary in the grand scheme of things.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You started drinking as a child?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Depends on what age you could as "child". But yeah.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

My friend has been an alcoholic since about 13 y.o....

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

You're experiencing abuse and it's not normal. You also don't have to put up with your family because they're your family.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Nothing, because something is always gonna be shitty. See Butterfly Effect or Life is Strange.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

That doesn't mean that things can't be better!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago
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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I can't think of anything I'd tell myself, but I do know what I'd tell my parents: use condoms.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This one seems very sad. I hope you are okay.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I'm stuck on a planet whose civilization is rapidly turning into a feudalist dystopia. We'll all be lucky to have roofs over our heads in 10 years. Also, it'll be impossible to survive without air conditioning. So no, I am not okay.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Always take spare batteries for your GameBoy

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Buy bitcoin and dump all of it at 65k

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You're not difficult or lazy, you're autistic and you have ADHD.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It seems like these two come as a pair quite often. Is there a reason for that?

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

You'll regret buying Heroes of Might and Magic 3, but you'll soon appreciate its greatness. Also, hold off buying a game called Skyrim until the Anniversary Edition releases.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago
  • See a psy doc when you’re a teenager. Your teachers asking “Is everything ok? Is something wrong?” out of the blue are red flags that you need help.
  • When in doubt, forgive others
[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Don't listen to your parents; for all of the advice out there in the world that says that your parents know what's best for you and want that for your future, that does not apply here. Also it's okay to be gay and agender, so go slay and get a sweet boyfriend.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

You're AuDHD, and I believe everything that's happening to you at home. It's real and you're not lying or making it up. You don't deserve this. You're a good person and your family wasn't prepared or willing to meet your needs. You are NOT a burden or an unlovable, broken failure of a child. You are BEAUTIFUL.

Keep writing & fiercely loving your stories - NEVER give up on them, or anything else that brings you joy; your interests & passions & the woman you love (and that love is NOT wrong) are your family now.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Those teachers and your fellow students? They're not actually that stupid and you're not crazy. Confront your parents about those standardized tests the school had you take; they're hiding the results from you. You could do so much more if only they'd let you skip some grades, but they don't want you to grow up too fast and think you'll socialize better if you don't skip. You'll be bored and never learn how to actually learn hard subjects if you don't get away from these imbeciles quick. Oh, and you'll develop a condescending tone which drives away every potential friend you could have had if you don't do this. Also, you're trans."

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

You have ADHD, fight until you get diagnosed ASAP.

Also, dad is a fucking bully, a liar and a manipulator. Don't trust him.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Your parents are mentally ill. And you will be too. Ask them.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Get on Effexor as soon as possible. Oh and you're Autistic. Have fun!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's not that hard to lose weight. You don't have to eat only lettuce. You just have to eat less.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Don't go into manual labor.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

You have generalized anxiety disorder. Learn to handle it. Also, it is very normal and most people are unaware of their psychological issues.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

College is not for you. I know you are looking forward to it but it will ruin your mental health, land you in massive debt, and lead to a suicide attempt. You won't finish anyway. Join a union and don't work for a place that makes aluminum molds. Do lots of ab workouts and you could avoid a couple of hernias

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

All kinds of Sugar and Starches are alcohol for your body. Keep up with that japanese course. Invest in Crypto hard just like you wanted to but thought it was expensive and risky at the time. Keep crypto, no sell, until a super rich publicly well known guy suddenly invests, then leave crypto days later asap.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Improve the child hood. Not much really.

Help someone else’s childhood. Yeah I’d alert the family to the problem with their dad before the abuse.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

When dad gives you advice, do the exact opposite. He's not stupid, the world has just changed so much since he was a kid.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

It's okay to make mistakes. Learn from them and move on. Don't let your fear of criticism stop you from trying new things.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

"You will have a psychotherapy and regret it hard not doing it earlier. School psychologist is not enough. Find a psychotherapist now"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

You don't have a learning disability and you don't belong in the special classes. Don't trust anyone that says it will be fixed the next year and go to a different high school when they say the classes you want are filled.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Love your close family more, you will need it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

There aren't too many things I regret. I'd tell myself to keep my mouth shut in a couple places, don't start drinking coke, maybe buy and sell some bitcoin. But for the most part, there was a lot of good with the bad, and reward from hardship.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Don't drink.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Stay away from sugar, and only eat whole foods, this will make your life tremendously better (at least it did for me), even if you just start today.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Actually a really difficult question as very much about the childhood depends on adults (parents, teachers, ...) around you.

Maybe this one: "The whole bullying situation will not change until you leave school. Convince your parents to let you change schools."

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