Sleeping with the nanny less than half your age isn't a great start for a discussion of power dynamics in a sexual relationship.
I'm not going to assume anything either way, bo the women deserve to be heard, at the very least.
Agreed, but in my experience people in their early twenties can be surprisingly experienced and conscious kinksters, able to voice consent and negotiate intense situations. While people in their fourties can be incredibly insecure, unable to communicate their needs and insecurities, while still wanting to play.
It's a matter of experience, self-awareness and skills, and those don't come with age, but with work on yourself and education. We need so much more sex education and communication about these things.
The woman in question doesn't seem to be an experienced kinkster though, and she should totally be heard in any case. But the age argument distracts from the real issues, I believe.
People in their forties who are also massive global celebrities? I doubt he was especially insecure.
*60s
Oops. You're right. I read 'forties' from the person I was replying to and wires got crossed.
One of the accusations was twenty years ago so 40s applies.
Either way, he was a big celebrity then and he is one now, so I don't think we can argue that this was some insecurity on his part.
I didn't mean him in that example, but the bottom of the power dynamic being 40, or 20.
and only a couple hours after they first met...
You never had sex on the first date?
Nope /shrug. Not something that ever happened to me. Married with kids now.
Say it ain't so 😥
Gaiman is one of my favorite writers and I actually have stuff signed by him, so…yeah.
But he said in his statement that he's a Gaiman.
Booo to the people that downvoted you.
This will make a friend of mine sad. She's a big fan. Sigh. Never meet your heroes.
Can someone define rape, cuz I'm genuinely confused. He didn't take their clothes off or force himself on them I gather.
Loosely, it's rape any time you have sex with someone who doesn't currently want to be having sex with you. That's pretty much the broadest possible terms.
At one point, she alleged that he penetrated her despite her objecting because she was in the midst of a urinary tract infection; the incident left her “screaming” in pain. Gaiman denied K’s allegations and told Tortoise he was “disturbed” by the accusations.
At least read the fucking thing.
Ugh. And I liked him as an author. Why can’t it be a crappy writer instead? Now I’m gonna feel bad every time I read one of his works. What an asshole.
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