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x: How unique the thing in me is

y: How uniquely well the thing in the other person fits the thing in me (this is probably more strongly sensed emotionally)

Examples:

The existence of my attraction to smart girls: x is low, y is how smart
My sense of humor: x is high, y depends on how well our humor fits together and how much the other person enjoys my humor

If there's nothing with both high x and high y for a person, then you need to continue focusing on exploration if you're looking for a good match (definitely when looking for future spouse, and maybe some cases of being unsatisfied with platonic friends)

Things with low x can be nice to have. It seems like emotion alone is what can be used for figuring out how they should affect decisions, but I would be interested in something better than emotion alone for this if the resulting process is improved for some people. I think emotion can't be completely removed from this.

I'm thinking out loud a lot with this one

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Project Pansystellar is an attempt to solve some foundational problems related to willpower and social interactions including those related to finding romantic relationships. It involves:

Recall and analysis of personal experiences (in addition to supporting the mission, it may be entertaining)
Introspection
Using and simplifying existing advice
Ambitious problem solving with a systems approach

The goal is to create and teach a unified system, codenamed the Pansystellar Architecture, to guides a person's thoughts and behavior. Simplicity and concreteness are being ambitiously pursued.

The origin of Project Pansystellar is my own experience and a desire to harness its intellectual potential by sharing my mindset and gained wisdom in a way that allows anyone to replicate it. I now also want to address problems that are not part of my own experience and to continue the evolution of my mindset.

Project Pansystellar will be something "for the rest of us". Maybe "love and freedom for the rest of us".

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