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[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 year ago

My wife's smile in the morning. The world could be burning outside, but every single day she wakes up with the most sincere smile. That always puts me in the best of moods!

[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Let someone in when they’re trying to merge onto a busy freeway.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hell, doing this for other people gets me in a good mood. It's just a great thing to do for everyone involved.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

it helps make roads safer too

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Just seeing a person use a turn signal is enough for me to think of them as a saint.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

In a bumper-to-bumper traffic slowdown, I once stayed still to allow an eighteen-wheeler to merge. They flashed all their back lights to say thanks, and it made me feel nice.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In American culture it’s all too common that personal time and vacation is undervalued or discouraged. For this reason when someone else is taking time off, or discussing taking time away from work for personal reasons I am very supportive. When someone returns this to me, I feel very respected and it usually makes me have a wonderful day.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I love this one. I'm usually excited for others too. I haven't taken a travel vacation in close to a decade so I love to live vicariously through others travels. Tell me everything of what you are going to do and what you are going to see. I want to hear all of it.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 year ago

A compliment. They don’t come often but when they do, they make my whole month.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

Scratch my head. Whenever I'm in a bad mood my wife will give me a hug and run her fingers through my hair. It instantly relaxes and calms my nerves.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Someone greeting me with excitement and enthusiasm. There's so much wonderfulness in being welcomed.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I would like to be greeted the way that the Cheers barflies greet their pals. Wholesome.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

That's exactly what I try to do for my friends and family. I want their first thought when they are near me is "I'm wanted".

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

The beauty of zipper merging.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Acknowledge me positively when entering a room. Neutral engagement or non-acknowledgment is not hurtful, but over time it erodes me. And when a person walks in and immediately says something critical before even saying hi, well, it's a goddamned wound.

All I'm asking is a brief smile, as if to say "hey, I don't hate that you're here."

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Hand me food to eat.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Being laid back and jokey. If I feel like I can joke around with you and not take life too seriously with you, my stress (as an introvert) has really melted quite a bit.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

When they say good morning and use my name.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Enjoying themselves.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Doesn't try to talk to me.

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