You don't have to say "Hey, I can see your dang-a-lang" but maybe something like "Hey, you might want to frost your window more because I can almost see my reflection in your mirror" might work.
this post was submitted on 17 Jun 2023
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Go there, ring the bell, tell them. The longer you wait the creepier that conversation is going to be.
Bring a video.
And when you do it, make sure you stare at them unblinkingly to assert dominance.
Ask them to dinner and explain you usually like to enjoy a hot meal with someone before you see them naked. Classy AF.
just tell them asap. idk who tf thought it'd be a good idea to put windows in a bathroom.
Probably someone not fond of mold I guess.
Windows in a bathroom let in so much natural light, I always feel much more comfortable with windows (even really big ones) as long as all the important parts aren't visible from outside.
The framing in this conversation is important. This is difficult, but making it clear you'd rather not see that is how I'd go.
I'd tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.
No way around it, it's going to be a bit awkward, but telling them shouldn't seem like a weird thing to do. If you're polite, telling them about the issue is a kind thing to do.
Maybe a note outside their door? Could be anonymous if you don't know them well and they don't have cameras, saves both you and them the awkwardness
I'd tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.
This is a great advice. Little buffer gray zone so you don't have to directly say "hey, I can see you when you take a shit".
You're assuming they care. Maybe they're comfortable with themselves. I used to make eye contact with my neighbors when I was showering and they were mowing. They stopped looking.
Invite him over while she is taking a shower. Enjoy the view together. Let them draw their own conclusions.
Stand naked outside the window and knock.
Or, just put a letter in the mailbox or on the front porch.
I choose your answer (The first bit). This will get the message across, while also restoring a balance and asserting dominance.
I'd drop a note, to avoid the awkward conversation that might happen & to avoid embarrassing your neighbour.
Even an anonymous note in their mailbox saying something to the effect of: "FYI, I can still see your naughty bits, not that I'm looking."
Send them a dick pick of their own dick. that glass will be frosty the next time you see it.
Bring up this issue happening with you, in casual conversation. For example: "when I moved here the house had a lot of issues, for example [...] and the glass was not frosted enough. We eventually fixed this [...]"
The idea here is that you won't be telling them directly, they're going to realise it on their own.
I love this haha, I live in NZ and people here are very indirect and non confrontational.
I'm Dutch so quite the opposite.
I was working with a Dutch guy, he'd just flown back to Netherlands and I sent him an email that went something like:
Hi Jan,
Hope you made it back ok,
<work question>
Cheers,
Dandan
He replied inline to my email and under "Hope you made it back ok" he wrote " >I do not understand why this is relevant"
Youβre going to have to post a few pictures for us to better asses the situation π€£