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Hadn’t realized how reliant upon Reddit I’d become for news and interesting things until after it turned to shit and I quit it. I’ve rediscovered RSS for ex., using reader apps to scan sources directly and read without all the noise—that actually came from someone’s recommendation here in the comments. I’ve found several new sites with deep, knowledgeable articles and discussions, like https://theconversation.com/us (free! No ads! Also discovered through the comments here), and my engagement with articles and their sources has gone WAY up. I’ve stopped reading garbage comment sections, too, and I’m just feeling better mentally as a result, disengaging from the endless, low effort memes/jokes and the mean, toxic comments*. Anyone else?

(Thanks again, admins—really enjoying and appreciating how Beehaw is run!)

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly? No. I like Beehaw. But it's less convenient, with less content. I would rather stop using Reddit, but ultimately I'm just doing the same stuff here that I was there. Then again, I saw little toxicity in the subreddits I was in. Also, adult content is far less accesible.

Again though, I'm pretty happy with Beehaw/Lemmy. I'm sure they will only improve with time.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Same here. The lack of content is noticeable and it sucks that I have to participate instead of lurking. 😅

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (9 children)

I've noticed I'm spending more time looking at content that I actually want to engage with.

I've also been on a huge FOSS hyper-fixation for the past week after replacing reddit with Lemmy. I've stopped using Youtube in favour of an open-source front end (Piped), I finally ditched Windows as my main OS and set up EndeavourOS, found an open-source Spotify front-end for desktop (psst) as well as an alternative for mobile (ViMusic).

If anyone has any other open-source software to recommend, hit me up!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

For email, Thunderbird has done a complete re-write, and it’s excellent: https://www.thunderbird.net/en-US/download/beta/

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Oh definitely, looking back I did a lot of doom scrolling and I didn’t realize how much it was affecting me. So happy to be off or Reddit

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What I liked about Reddit was the balance of content and community. There's nothing on the Internet that hits the same balance for me. Lemmy feels like the early days of Reddit, in that way it's refreshing. But I miss being able to read through dozens of comments.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Not sure if 2011 counts as early days or Reddit, but yeah this feels like that. I’m glad that I’m spending less time scrolling, and more time reading books, articles, and comics. But I do miss the endless stream of content, and putting ‘site:reddit.com’ in my Google searches.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I've been doing so many things for kbin, it has literally reignited my passion to code. I'm having a blast

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oooh, what have you been working on?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I've been working on a browser extension that makes easier the navigation between communities from different instances by adding an icon to the start of a community name or link.
So for example if you have [email protected] or https://lemmy.ml/c/technology clicking the icon will take you to https://beehaw.org/c/[email protected]. It's a small thing but very useful for us kbin users, however it works with lemmy as well.

Also I'm working on a bot for kbin, specially made for subreddit mods that want to get content from their subreddits into a magazine, to help a little with the lack on content.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

That's cool, good luck!

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am absolutely loving it. Truly does feel like the old days in a good way. Where communities were made of good people and chatted about whatever random stuff they were interested in.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

I agree. At first, I felt bereft that I couldn't discuss xyz niche topic. Now, I'd rather find friendly people in whatever topic area.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

This might sound weird, but bare with me!

I save funny stuff, goofy things, and positive content in a folder for my son to browse through, which keeps him from looking for content himself in parts of the internet unknown. He loves it, and I had been able to keep the folder updated with a good amount of new images daily, thanks to R×ddit.

However, lately that has changed. Posts deemed as "wholesome" and "made me smile" now increasingly have the edge of a dystopian nightmare ("look at this father reuniting with his son who he thought was dead amidst this war-torn country! Awwww! Wholesome!" and "this teacher was surprised when his students gave him something that his paycheck should have been able to adequately provide but he is not actually paid enough to afford it! Awww! Made me smile!"). I'll find animals doing something "cute", only to realize that behavior is caused by bad or abusive care.

Now I struggle to find things that are actually funny or nice without having a sexist edge, a horrifying implication, sexual undertones, or some kind of underlying dark tone.

I am finding less content here, but the content I am coming across seems to be much more genuine! I've actually saved quite a bit more things than I've seen on R×ddit within the past year.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I could always add 'Reddit' to a Google search and get information from real people. With the rise of bot sites/articles, this was my way of getting answers online.

Lemmy is great for learning new or interesting things, and I'm glad it's here. I just am not sure how to get answers from real people anymore

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Well, I'm enjoying the Internet now that I'm here on Beehaw. I stopped actively browsing Reddit years ago, only ever using it for web searches and the sidebar/wikis for niche topics. The vibes were bad. Normal subs had too many chuds and lefty subs had too many tankies, and comments felt insincere and sarcastic. So my social media usage has increased a little, but I like it here. Good project y'all are running.

Edit: /u/[email protected] - It keeps hanging up when I try to reply to you. Tankies are people who advocate for authoritarian governments that are "communist" in name only, like Russia and China. In reality they are essentially fascist. Genocide denial is a quick way to spot them.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Normal subs had too many chuds and lefty subs had too many tankies

Yep. I was initially attracted to the users that were present from 2014-2017. Over the years I noticed that the communities I had frequented, both leftist and tech subs, had hollowed out and become shells of their former selves. I spent a year and a half wondering where the users I liked had migrated to and searching for them. Search engines are increasingly useless these days as everything retreats behind walled gardens and SEO gentrification runs wild. I had been a Mastodon user for years and I recently noticed at the time that they implemented the ability to follow hashtags, so I tried that out and started building a feed. To my surprise, I found them at last. In hindsight, it makes sense. The Fediverse are FOSS platforms that are decentralized. Mastodon in particular also opts you out of search engine indexing by default. But yeah, feels nice to be reconnected with the demographics I liked.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Honestly? It feels a bit mid for me. I keep reflexively opening the app, and there's still a lot of smaller communities I peek at. I try to keep time-burning scrolling here, but it doesn't feel the same.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

I feel like if your someone who enjoys smaller corners of reddit, it might feel odd until you find a place on here. Because there is a higher chance what you enjoy isn't on here yet, or it might not have enough traffic yet.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Oh yes, absolutely. I spend a lot more time watching tutorials on YouTube, because I'm not having pointless discussions with people who automatically hate me and dismiss me as soon as they learn my age (I'm ten years too young to be a "Boomer", but to the kids on Reddit a "Boomer" is apparently anyone over 40). Also, of course, I've discovered Beehaw, which is awesome and far more chill. I'm not sure if I got away from ageism, but hopefully?

I've also done a lot more reading. I've finished two books in the last three days, which would have been the norm for me pre-Reddit. Recreational reading had fallen by the wayside for far too long.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

got away from ageism

No way, old man winter!

Just kidding! I remember being on a gaming forum back in the early 00s and having a couple of "old" guys on (in their 30s-40s). We'd always give them shit, but at the same time looked up to them and thought it was cool they were still gaming.

They also had great perspective and wisdom to share with us teenage idiots.

Now I get to be the 'old' guy in my 30s. It's fun to engage with the younger crowd, and not dismiss them because of their age, because the younger generations have interesting perspectives too. I'm like paying it forward.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

Man, I'm enjoying life since I got off Reddit, which was when they first announced the API changes. Deleted my account there and then. Same goes with Twitter.

Turns out all these places just churn dumb online drama that is so inaccessible to the general public, that I ended up being a bit withdrawn because I had all this online drama in my head and I couldn't really talk to folks about it.

Now I'm ironically much more sociable that I've moved over to the fediverse. Outside of the reddit drama, conversations have been much more human. And even with the drama, I've learned to stop caring about such things - everything is in change, it will be okay. Companies don't matter - people do.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

@SemioticStandard I’ve felt a similar way since I’ve stopped using Reddit, Instagram, and Twitter over the last few years. I feel like those websites have so much petty drama that feels like it’s desperately trying to persuade you to be on the website all day for the next brief burst of satisfaction, and it unfortunately works on a lot of people. I’ve seen people run back to Twitter because people aren’t constantly arguing with each other on the Fediverse alternatives.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

You know, I never quite realized that, in fact, reddit does front-load lots of petty drama to keep me on there. I've basically been little better than someone watching the Kardashians or something.

Crap.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is gonna sound dumb but I love how much slower it is. I use to refresh R/politics sorting by controversial just to lurk and like get angry. I don't know why. But since switching to Kbin I haven't wanted to do that. Even the serverag has been kind of nice, I just click something and it takesonger so I might read a page or two of my book then check back.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

It's a dopamine hit. That's why you did it. I'm finding myself reading whole news articles instead of the first paragraph and then two pages of other people's comments about it, so that's probably good for my overall mental health.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

It might be a coincidence, but this week I've been sleeping better than I have been able to for months.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Less content less advertisement and less time on the app
It’s good

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Definitely in a better overall mood without the doom scrolling. Also, haven't had to see a single He Gets Us ad which is very nice.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I have become addicted to exploring the Fediverse. I enjoy reading articles and interacting. I even love Mastodon now that I have been mysteriously banned from Twitter (after not using it for months).

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

It feels different to use fediverse-based forum sites, but they're growing rapidly, and you find new communities/magazines pretty much every day, and even though there's some fracturing going on (need I remind you of Beehaw defederating from .world).
I like this a lot more than the social media-esque approach of modern Reddit. It has very much become like Twitter, with it's endless feed of dopamine-inducing algorithms and whatnot. The blackout is a bit annoying, but I agree with the fact people should protest decisions if they ruin things for people.
I'm liking the experience so far.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm really enjoying it honestly - I didn't realize how many great forums were still out there.

I'm waiting for my data request to go through, then I might delete my account. Although there isn't much of a point if they are restoring comments..

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

You might want to keep your account so you can go back and delete your data as they restore it. I nuked all of mine, but every day maybe three or four things show back up again. It's very strange. Almost like a rolling backup being restored.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Absolutely, I don't miss 99% of reddit but I have to admit I miss the smaller communities. Most game subreddits I follow are small on reddit in the first place so none of them have moved elsewhere, most don't even participate in the protests, the few that do just link to their discord instead. Many of these subreddits have devs commenting there as well so it's not something that you can replace.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Since April my social media usage has been 90% Fediverse 10% Reddit, and that 10% is dwindling fast. Once I settled into a corner I liked and got my feed set up to my liking, I found myself logging off in a good mood. This is in contrast with Reddit where I find myself surrounded by garbage content, garbage users, garbage admins, and a sense of feeling stuck because all the alternatives were either dead or regressive. The grass really is greener.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I did until I got into Lemmy and tildes, now I'm mindlessly refreshing a different app now 🙃

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I feel a lot less stressed overall and feel good about deleting my reddit account!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I think I have just been wasting less time. I usually check lemmy throughout the day. But just in bursts. I’ve for sure been more productive and happy with the new normal.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

No. I didn't have such a problematic relationship that I didn't control my usage.

I do feel sad about such a great app RiF dying and the deterioration of communities I found great. Also the pattern of googling plus Reddit giving you insights. It was a convenient default which I think will die/deteriorate for a while.

I am excited to see what opportunities arise from this. Very much so.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

The downfall of Reddit has increased my usage of the Fediverse, namely Lemmy, but it has also reduced my usage of Twitter as I've moved to Mastodon. I barely used Reddit prior to the API announcement, but now I don't want to use it at all. I still have Infinity downloaded on my phone which I intend to delete on the 30th.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I'm glad there are other people out there that enjoy looking for content they want to see rather than having it fed to them from an endless scrolling pipe and from repost bots.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

#Threadiverse is fresh and Vulcan loves how the community can band together in the federation of discussion and link aggregators.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

It is like a treasure hunt, makes me feel like a kid again.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Definitely a hard habit to break but it does feel good removing my need for that screen time. Since things move slower here I don’t feel like I’m “missing out” per se - you can usually jump into a convo at any time

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