Mildly Infuriating

I just talked with a coworker about this today. Her dad lost his leg because they failed to respond to a foot infection and they then also blamed him for not telling them soon enough… It’s disgusting how we treat the elderly in those facilities (and here we pay double those 3k btw…) I was forced to work in a nursing home for 2 months as part of my civil duty (military service substitution). I couldn’t do it anymore, it just kills you how they treat some people. Those are grown adults and I was told they can’t have a small knife to cut vegetables, not because they were unsafe with them but just as a matter of policy. Others where given clothes to fold that afterwards where thrown back into the same bucket that they came from to be folded again tomorrow. They were lied to and treated with less respect than little kids… And then the whole COVID thing in addition to that where they couldn’t see anyone and had to endure this idiocy basically 24/7.

I really never thought about suicide but if I end up in such a facility when I’m old, I might have to reevaluate my stance on that… that’s not living, that’s dying in installments while being drained of your money….

When my grandmother was unable to live on her own we moved her up to where we live. She had a good amount of money stashed away, so shopped every nice facility in town, and picked what seemed like the nicest one. While I would say the food didn't look as terrible as the picture in the OP, it wasn't much better. Multiple other issues at these places though, staff not helping, not giving meds on time, falling and not getting assistance for hours. One of the worst was falling, having to go to the hospital, and never letting emergency contacts know. We found out when the hospital called, because her charts didn't seem to match up. Turns out they sent the wrong charts to the hospital. Thank god she didn't have any allergies. We ended up moving her to another facility that was even more expensive, and promised none of these things would happen there. Turns out that wasn't true, so my parents finally ended up moving to a new home where they could finish the basement and build an apartment for her with full time care hired to come by.

I used to always think if you had the financial part of old age figured out you'd be okay, boy was I wrong.

Nursing home I imagine by the price?

I wish I noticed that before someone embarrassed me in the comments 😪

Just like with r/Mildlyinfuriating It's like it never left!

Oh no. Please don't tell me that's what that diseased morsel in the top left corner is.

People leaving USA.... Maybe we need to leave....

There, FTFY. 🤓🤘🏼 There's more than enough reasons these days. Frankly, the main one keeping me here for a little while longer is just the youngin' aging into independence. We're GTFO after that. 🤌🏼

Where I'm at, the nursing homes change ownership every few years to avoid responsibility for their negligence

This doesn't look appetizing at all, however the amount doesn't seem that unrealistic for old people.

As a somewhat active person in my 30s, I would not find that to be a satisfying meal, but your caloric needs change throughout your life. Most adults would need roughly about a 2000 Calorie/day diet, but depending on activity level, age, gender, height, metabolism, etc. that can vary pretty widely. A larger guy living an active lifestyle may need in excess of 3000 Calories, a smaller girl with a sedentary lifestyle may only need 1800 or so.

Seniors tend to have lower caloric needs than adults, and in a nursing home setting, many of them are probably living pretty sedentary lives (many of them probably physically couldn't be very active even if they wanted to, that's part of why some of them are in a nursing home in the first place)

Plus many of us are accustomed to eating meals that are well in excess of what we actually need, I'm pretty sure we've all seen what a recommended serving size of steak looks like- 3oz, about the size of a deck of cards, I genuinely don't think I've ever eaten a steak that small in my life, and I don't purposely seek out huge steaks.

Then you also have issues with dementia patients where just getting them to eat anything at all can sometimes be an issue.

And of course, you need to be mindful of health conditions, and very healthy people don't tend to end up in nursing homes. They may have allergies, food sensitivities, diabetes, etc. that need to be accounted for, health conditions or medications that interact with different foods, they need to be mindful of potential cross-contamination, or that a confused old person may not fully understand why they can or can't have certain foods and may try to eat someone else's meal that could cause them to have health issues. So a relatively bland and safe menu with carefully portioned servings kind of becomes necessary, especially when you need to be serving dozens or hundreds of people all at once every day.

And some of them just have pretty bland tastes and limited appetites, not everyone is a foodie or gourmand who loves to eat, some regard food as just a necessary fuel for them to keep living. And some people think that a bit of salt and pepper it over seasoning (my mom, who is hopefully another 20 or so years away from needing a nursing home, thinks that a McChicken is "too spicy" and would probably think this meal is great)

"paying the staff" lmao. I know it's sarcasm, but still. As someone who has worked as a nurse in a shitty home, I can only emphasize the money ain't going to the staff.

Looks like purple broccoli.

Done right it's lovely.

This is not done right.

Looks like a purple cauliflower floret.

I work with a lot of retirees. Many daycare centers require full access and history to their retirees to know how much their making. Wether they gave 3k or 7k or monthly income they want it all.

No difference in what service is provided regardless of the pay to the institution either.

Unsure if regulation would help or hurt this industry but it may be necessary.

My retirement is dying while training the AI that will replace me

Both really. 36,000$ per year is a lot of money, but as far as nursing homes go, you can easily get up to 120,000$ per year or more.

Why it gray tho