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[–] [email protected] 80 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Kids need to learn about their bodies, consent and types of abuse early so that they are able to recognize and report abuse being done to them or others. If not, they don't have an understanding of the language needed to express that things that are wrong and they need help.

This is EXACTLY why republicans don't want children to have a functional path to sexual education. And similarly why they don't want their voters to have a basic general education.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Yeah, I was 22 years old when my mother sat me down for "the talk", and even then, it only consisted of "don't go to bed with someone". LITERALLY nothing more than that. I just looked at her cockeyed and told her she was pretty late for this talk. And of course the talk itself was just so sub par.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Lol, my dad did way tf after school covered it. Probably like age 14 or so. He goes "raiderkev, u know about chicks n shit right?"

"What do you mean dad?"

"You know, like sex n shit"

"Yeah dad, we've had sex Ed the last like 2 years, and we've also had the Internet on our computer since before that. "

"Ok, good. You know, be safe and stuff"

A for effort I guess. Thanks Dad!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I could be wrong, but I don't think your experience was typical. I hope I'm not wrong. My mom did this whole little lesson plan with me when I was entering puberty, including reading a book to me that I think was called Preparing for Puberty. It was awkward, but I'm glad that she took the time to share that information with me.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

I'm glad my mom handed me the puberty book and walked away. Jesus christ I would have flashbacks to that experience until I die.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

I hope you're right, but my experience, albeit a decade earlier, was very similar to the above.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Can someone please post a link that bypasses the subscription?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Sorry, but there is nothing like that from my phone. Not even a popup. I'm outside the US and use adaway.

Do you need a subscription to read the article?

https://web.archive.org/web/20230812063841/https://www.nytimes.com/2021/07/28/parenting/parents-sex-talk.html

[–] [email protected] -2 points 10 months ago

Oh Reginald... I disagree! Hahaha

[–] [email protected] -3 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Isn't sex ed, deescalation and abuse prevention part of the standard kindergarten schedule since 30 years?

[–] [email protected] 20 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

"Stranger Danger" and "Bad Touch" aren't discussed in Indiana Classrooms until the 2nd grade, and even then, its super-vague.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Is it gendered? Like who is taught what?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Gender doesn't exactly play into telling kids to tell a parent and/or teacher or doctor when anyone touches their "private area"? Pretty sure nipples are mentioned as such for girls and boys, if they are mentioned at all.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I agree, but do the policymakers see that as well?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Part of what I was getting at, or rather how I read your question, is that none of my children mentioned any separation of the girls and boys for these lessons. There was mention of "private areas", but also, "or any other touching that made you or others uncomfortable" and the "why" seems to have been left for the health classes they had later on in Middle School and High School.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I know we have some, and your place might too, but it is not a universal thing.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yea and Republicans are trying to remove it all.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

If they manage that here, I will be extremely impressed by them.