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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Been there, done that. I probably had Covid twice, but one seemed asymptomatic. (Fully vaxxed each time.) The first time, had only a household member with Covid and some low blood-oxygen readings. The second time, felt like a bad case of flu, tested positive.

Covid seemed to linger for a longer time than most other viral infections I've had. Low energy, draggy, for a good month or two after I was physically "recovered." That I needed to self-quarantine, and my inability to get basic ADLs (activities of daily living) done efficiently contributed to feelings of depression. There was probably also a physiological Covid-related component to my feeling overall "down" as well.

It will pass, eventually (fingers crossed). It just seemed to take longer than run-of-the-mill illnesses. Be gentle with yourself.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

And for heaven's sake, start an investment retirement account now. Yeah, I know, "but I'm not making enough, but there's that shiny thing in the (online) store window, but I'm never going to get old." Just allot one take-out coffee's worth of spare change per week. You can up the ante later. Let the miracle of compound interest do its thing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Welcome to for-profit healthcare in America. It's no longer about your health. It's about their profits. (But—muh freedomz!)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

That you're posting here suggests you really don't want to take action. That's a good start.

I urge you to seek professional counseling to work on processing this horrible experience. It won't go away if you follow through with violent plans. While you may feel like it would release your from the "prison of your mind," I can assure you it will not. And you're more likely to find yourself if literal prison.

I was raped when I was 17. I've never said thst anywhere in print, and rarely speak about it in person. I'm 68 now. I recall the details vividly.

I'm saying it now to you so you know I am speaking from hard experience, not just blathering. Revenge will not release you. And: you will be shaped by the experience. You cannot change that. But far more importantly, you do not need to be defined by it.

I refuse to have my life defined by one stupid person's thoughtless, egregiously cruel act (or even several people, several acts). You are better than that, stronger than that. I refuse to give anyone that power. It's not about forgetting anything. It's about forging it through your own will into one event, among many, that make you who you are, and who you can be.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

An occasional thought that flits by, dissipates quickly, likely not an issue. But by definition, "intrusive" means a thought that nags, disrupts, is unwelcome in frequency, intensity. It would be worth finding a therapist to get to the reason, the source—and to find better ways to defuse or address these thoughts. They aren't there "for no reason at all." With a clearer sense of the reason, you can seek better ways to address the root cause.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Can't do tech very well, but give me needle, thread, and I can mend! Nobody does that anymore, either.

 

There’s a test for that: the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale. You can look up that term online for more information. I’ve linked to one source that has a decent, short explanation, and the complete scale itself. Other sites can offer more in-depth perspective.

You may need to adjust some of the items for your specific circumstances. Note that the scale indicates that even “good” stuff in our lives (as well as, duh, “bad” stuff) can contribute to overall feelings of being off-kilter, out of it, not quite firing on all cylinders.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It sounds like you may be feeling very self-conscious about interactions. It took me a long time to learn, but much of the time (I've come to realize), "they ain't studying on me." Like—other people aren't scrutinizing me or judging me as much as I think they are.

Plenty of people are so wrapped up up in their own heads that they aren't paying you any attention, perhaps not realizing how you are reading their responses to you.

Maybe it's just me getting older, but "when I am an old woman, I shall wear purple." If others think I'm dressed weird or acting oddly—what of it? I don't need (and can't have) everyone's approval. Sure—there are limits; I don't want to endanger myself or others, or provoke hostility. I don't want to be mean to anyone.

If you make overtures of friendship and kindness and are turned away, that says a lot more about others than it does about you.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

There are a number of resources pinned on this community for those in need of extra help.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I'm so glad you took the time to update! It sounds like, although it was an unpleasant experience, you made good use of it by figuring out what was behind the feelings, what was motivating your downward spiral, and what you can do to help yourself get back on track.

I know it's easier said than done, and something I struggle with too—but don't let the perfect become the enemy of the good. As in, maybe you'll try and not get it absolutely perfect. But doing a "good enough" job is sometimes (often?) better than doing nothing at all. We all make mistakes, even with the best of intentions and effort. But the only real "failure" is screwing up, and not learning anything from it. I think it was Einstein who said "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results."

Thank you for asking how I'm doing! Well—muddling through. Sitting in a nursing home with my partner who has Alzheimer's, where I visit her every day. Not what I wanted for my retirement. I try to look for good things, small things. She still knows who I am, and we still love each other. I'm comfortable financially. I'm going to see my friends in church tomorrow; hopefully, the meditation class I'll be teaching will go over well. Trying to get motivated to mow the yard!

Be well, my friend, and take good care of yourself. We all have ups and downs; give yourself what you need to pick yourself up again.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Absolutely! Toasted, with ketchup!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sorry, absolutely no clue—like at least 30-40 years ago.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Sleep tight. Don't let the bedbugs bite. And if they do? Bite them back!

 

I don’t want to claim that meditation is the answer to every mental health problem. But it’s helped me, and I sometimes recommend trying it, particularly mindfulness. (And you can do mindfulness seated and at rest, or walking, or any number of routine activities—just not driving, please!).

I’ve heard a number of people say “But I just can’t still my thoughts! My mind is racing, and I give up feeling more defeated than ever!”

Mindfulness is not about forcing your mind to stop thinking. Rather, it’s about becoming aware of what you’re thinking… and then letting the thought go.

I’ve linked an article I found recently that explains it really well. TLDR (though it’s worth reading in full): A Tibetan Buddhist monk, chosen as the reincarnation of a revered predecessor, absolutely loathed being a monk as a teenager. He was angry, snarly, irritated, and a great vexation to his teachers. Angry thoughts constantly interrupted his meditation practice (and everyone around him).

One teacher gave him some advice: when you meditate, don’t be like a dog; be like a lion.


“When you throw a stone at a dog, what does he do?” he asked.

“The dog chases the stone,” I replied.

He said that was exactly what I was doing, acting like a dog—chasing each thought that came at me…

“When you throw a stone at a lion,” he continued, “the lion doesn’t care about the stone at all. Instead, it immediately turns to see who is throwing the stone. Now think about it: if someone is throwing stones at a lion, what happens next when the lion turns to look?”

“The person throwing the stone either runs away or gets eaten,” I said.

“Right you are,” said my teacher. “Either way, no more stones!… Instead of chasing the anger, grabbing it, and holding on, just be aware. Just be very gently aware of the anger instead of getting involved. Don’t reject it, but don’t dwell on it either. Just turn your attention to look gently at the thought. At that moment of turning inward to just observe, the thought will dissolve. At that moment, just exhale and rest.”

 

"Researchers at the Francis Crick Institute and UCL have shown that hundreds of proteins and mRNA molecules are found in the wrong place in nerve cells affected by Motor Neuron Disease (MND), also known as Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS).…

[N]ew research published today in Neuron shows that the problem is much broader. This 'mislocalization' affects many more proteins than first thought, especially those involved in RNA binding. The mislocalization extends to mRNAs too, molecules that deliver instructions to make proteins from the DNA in the nucleus."

 

Dementia / Alzheimer's Medication Class Action

"A $56 Million Class Action Settlement has been settled with pharmaceutical companies that manufacture and market certain Alzheimer's disease medications. The class action lawsuit alleged that pharma companies including Actavis, Merz, Teva, Dr. Reddy's, and Wockhardt conspired intentionally to keep generic versions of Alzheimer's medication off the shelves in order to drive up the cost of Namenda Alzheimer's medication. In the United States, the generic version of Namenda Alzheimer's disease drug is also known as Memantine."

Page contains a link to join the class action suit.

 

Racial disparities in drug trials, and disparities in overall medical care, among other factors, make the recently-approved Alzheimer's break-through drug lecanemab less likely to benefit African Americans.

 

Interesting read on how media portrayal of people with disabilities shapes perception of them as "deserving" of accommodations under ADA, or not.

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From their "about us" page: "'Being Patient' is an editorially independent news and community platform that aims to create clarity around complex health issues and be a trusted, accurate source of information for the people impacted by a disease."

Some good, apparently well-vetted info on Alzheimer's and related dementias. Emphasis on personal narratives from people with dementia, and from caregivers.

 

"The Vanishing Family." This is a "gift" link, so you shouldn't hit a paywall; let me know if you have any problems.

 

So my partner with Alzheimer’s is in a skilled nursing facility. She wouldn’t walk or exercise for several years; fell repeatedly; and after a stint in the ER, flunked out of rehab. She’s now in long-term care on Medicaid, in a place which I will call Roach Motel because (you know) “roaches check in, but they don’t check out.” They want her money. I am physically unable to care for her at home 24/7.

I don’t know that I could have gotten her into a better place than Roach Motel from a hospital ER. The ER was adamant: “we need to kick her out NOW, because she’s taking up space and we can’t do anything more for her. You have two choices, and they’re both wretched. Roach Motel is slightly less wretched.”

I didn’t know much about Roach Motel, but I document here how I was able to find the skeletons in their closet, in hopes someone with more time to consider can avoid voluntarily selecting a toxic waste dump for their loved one. Presumably, this roadmap will work for assisted living, memory care, and other types of care facilities too. This strategy works for the US; I believe it should be transferrable to other countries.

Yes, ideally you should visit, do the sniff test (does eau-d’-urine waft through the halls?), ask questions (do you treat patients with respect?), sample the food (it’s all institutional, but is there some semblance of palatable, recognizable food items?) However, good places will be honest, and garbage dumps will show-and-tell you what they want you to see. They will appear similar. How to tell the difference?

You can coax a lot out of online searches.

First, start with the facility’s full proper name; add city and state if necessary. Search online. You can use Google’s search engine for this first part—but for later searches, I suggest something like DuckDuckGo. Reason: some search engines accept pay to promote good reviews, suppress bad ones. It’s called SEO, “search engine optimization.” You want to see what they will pay not to show you.

Your first search results will show you the puff pieces: the glossy-brochure language, promotional articles, glowing (likely paid) customer reviews.

Next, add the following to your search string: . It doesn’t matter whether you have either in your healthcare portfolio. Both programs review and rate facilities based on complex metrics. Scroll through the resulting pages to see what the criteria mean, what they are based on. Pay some attention to consistency of ratings—if one month, they are at 5 stars (out of 5), the next month jump to 3, back up to 4, and a month later drop to 2, then they’ve got issues.

Next, use the facility name and add strings such as , or . The Yelp-style ratings system will always skew to extremes; they elicit comments from people who are either deliriously happy, or inconsolably angry. Take both with a grain of salt. Sometimes, a patient’s medical issues will overwhelm even the most meticulous of care, and that can leave loved ones looking to assign blame. But if you see a bunch of ambulance-chasers boasting of success “suing the pants off” of your facility, it’s not a good sign.

Next, using facility name, switch over from the “general” tab of your search engine to “news,” and sort by “most recent.” What does recognized journalistic reportage have to say about your facility? You may find reports of union strikes, egregious heath and safety violations. Or you may find the C-suite honcho or top manager bragging, prognosticating a bright future for happy patients with excellent care. Are the honcho’s comments realistic? Does it appear he or she thinks an increase in Medicare or Medicaid per-diem payments will fish them out of their current financial morass? (Ha! Dream on!) Read between the lines; why is this piece of reporting “news”? What is the honcho responding to? Bottom line, what pending financial instabilities do you see? (If they have problems looming, those problems won’t be reported; they’re speculation, not yet actual news. Make some intelligent guesses of your own.)

Finally, use the facility name and add , searching with the “general” tab. The dirty little secret of most nursing homes is that they are for-profit entities, and that they are owned by a handful of people who are very well-off, and who bring family and friends into the business with them. Whatever their values, they will likely be applied to (and visible in) other facilities in which owners have s share.

From what I’ve seen, there may be a dozen or so owners. Each one owns a percentage share of your target institution, and a percentage share of many other institutions across the country. They’ve got empires going. One I read about purchased a whole airline for his son to play at running—where did that money come from?

Pick a few names from the top of the list, and start online searching those names. (If names are common, you may have to toss in a few qualifiers like “nursing.”) The people at the top have the biggest percentages. Chances are, you’ll start seeing other names appearing on the sites you turn up—the other co-owner investors listed as owners.

What kinds of complaints, fines, lawsuits, violations, fraud, allegations or similar shenanigans do you see? The owners of your target facility almost certainly have shares in other facilities that have done bad enough things to become internet-searchable. If your target facility is not currently under the gun, that’s not necessarily good news. Chances are excellent they simply have not been caught and publicized yet. An owner of multiple facilities is not going to treat your target facility any differently than all the others they own.

And for 50 extra bonus points: set up a Google Alert.” Search online for . Sign in to your Google account. In the dialog box “search for,” enter the full name of your target institution. My preferences from drop down menus (set to default unless otherwise indicated): how often—once a day; region—US; how many—all results. (If you get irrelevant info, you can modify these settings later).

 

I was on Farcebook earlier today, and caught not one, but two ads using the hashtag #dementiaawareness. (I was looking for something else.) I reported them to Farcebook as lies, and they disappeared, so sadly I can't share screenshots.

But basically, y'all know the drill: "Did you know you can cure dementia with this one simple thing?" I had to double-check—yup, it was "sponsored content." Someone paid to put it there.

Clicked through to a long rambling bunch of yadda yadda, coming from a Very Important MD with Very Big Credentials (you can read that in tRump's voice if you wish…), who has seen through the falsehoods of conventional therapies. Yes, all of the side-effects which the (white, male, pretty-boy) doctor lists for donepezil are truthful. Similar padding and truthful (but partial) information about other established medical interventions.

After pages and pages of half-truths, we get to the point: all you have to do to permanently reverse and cure dementia is buy our cannabis gummies! Here is a picture of Jane Doe with dementia, and here is a picture of Jane Doe after just one week taking our gummies! Wow!!!

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