Hey! 😋

So I'm super awkward, and anxious! (ADHD Autisic) And I'm really hoping I could get some help finding a casual way to ask someone out to a concert or dinner without creating the assumption that I'm paying for both tickets/meals.

Any ideas other then just bluntly asking to go Dutch?

This week’s prompt from the Marxist Men's Lib community is:

“Learning to wear a mask (that word already embedded in the term “masculinity”) is the first lesson in patriarchal masculinity that a boy learns. He learns that his core feelings cannot be expressed if they do not conform to the acceptable behaviors sexism defines as male. Asked to give up the true self in order to realize the patriarchal ideal, boys learn self-betrayal early and are rewarded for these acts of soul murder.”

― bell hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

Rebuttal: All people mask. We mask because we know our emotions can't always take priority, and being an adult means making room for, and having consideration for others. There's nothing shameful in this.

"Patriarchy" is not a reason to deminsish, and shame men for being stoic.

Feel free to post any examples of when you've been told to man up.

Like holy fuck do you not hear your kid screaming? Do you not have consideration for other fucking people? Or are you just so fucking useless you have zero ability to parent your child? I'm assuming the latter.

Fuck people.

I'm chilling in a hotel hottub, and there's a kid in the pool just screaming, fucking just screaming on and off at the top of their lungs, the sound just echoing off all the tile, it's fucking horrible, holy fuck.

Ughh, just really needed to vent that. Thank you. And fucking thank god they just left.

Fuck I'm greatful I don't have kids.

-edit-

New group of kids started floating around the hot tub bumping into me 😑 Asked them to stop, and then had to speak to their parents about it.