Jiggle_Physics

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I hope this is at least half a joke and it didn't get super bad for her, but yeah, people like this are everywhere, many don't even realize what they are doing.

[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago (2 children)

Well, the boyfriend, in this example, would be socializing. Just expecting her to be there as an accessory

but yeah it is awkward to see

Correct, it is a pejorative used in two ways, either people racist against asians claiming anyone who isn't asian dating an asian, has yellow fever, or that person in fetishizing them. Just being attracted to a person is not the same thing.

this applies to other ethnic groups, hair colors, and many other things.

[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 10 points 10 hours ago

Yeah, if they want to claim digital piracy is theft, then them doing this stuff is just as they described

[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 6 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

Finding a specific aspect of someone's appearance attractive, and fetishization, are not the same. A normal person could find melanin attractive, and be fine. When they are eschewing any interest in the person other than them having dark skin, you are fetishizing them. The person in this comment is pointing out how this fictional guy only dates asian women, and brings her around to be shown, rather than to enjoy the experience with in a deep way.

[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 14 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

Usually these people will give it away through an accumulation of subtler behaviors, or they just kinda out-right say so.

These things are often subtle. Noticing the many ways they never really talk about/to you in any other way than that one aspect of you they fetishize. In this post there is the dating history, how she is just there, quietly, on his arm, because he isn't actually doing anything to interact with her outside of her being there to be his asian woman. You may say that it is her responsibility to socialize, and that can be true, but more often than not this is a learned behavior. They have come to understand he doesn't really want them being anything but his arm candy, and has a history of making things bad if she does otherwise.

A lot of this easily deniable, which is why so many people fall into it. A lot of abuse, and objectification, isn't going "hey, you are my asian fuck doll, don't try to have autonomy". Much like how racism can be expressed in a bunch of much more subtle ways, like women taking direct hold of their purse when a black man walks on the elevator, but the strange white men didn't illicit the same response. It could just be a shift of position, or a million other things that aren't racism. However, when you are a black man, and see it happen every time this situation comes up, you realize it is a response to you, and what makes you different from those she was around to that point is? You are black. Hell, people might not even be aware they are doing it.

There are some people that make it clear though, for reference see the incel community obsession with asian women.

I was expecting this to explode into violence

OP's dad is wolverine

[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I guess your comment's POV, being framed coming from someone who didn't like people trying to participate with them in their hobbies, lead me to perceive the position being from someone out in the social spaces of their hobbies, where something like that can happen, rather than something like at home, alone, doing their thing.

I guess my point is that the way the comment was worded seems to create the opposite setting of what you were trying say?

I mean programming in methods of anti-perving the camera view have been common in games for decades now.

[–] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago (3 children)

you need to be the one enjoying the hobby somewhere else, if this is the case

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