LastoftheDinosaurs

Hey, I get that writing in your dog might seem funny, but this election is way too important for that. If people don't take voting seriously, it increases the chances of someone like Trump winning again in 2024. And with things like Project 2025 on the horizon, which aims to reshape the government in ways that could really hurt a lot of people, every vote really does count. We need to stick together and vote wisely if we want to avoid some serious consequences.

Sure, but Blue No Matter Who started during the 2016 Democratic primary between Hillary Clinton and Bernie Sanders supporters. It encourages Democrats to come together and support the nominee in the general election, no matter who they backed in the primary. I use it to highlight the importance of coming together to stand against Republicans.

I was always going to vote against Trump, no matter who the other candidate was. I'm glad it's Kamala, though. I think most people on Lemmy see the danger and made their decision long ago. Blue, no matter who.

Yeah, it seems like women aren't really being taken seriously by their doctors. I might also "super mask," not sure. It's awesome that you found someone who understands you. I know how difficult it is to go through life being misunderstood.

I actually don't know what queerness means, but I'll definitely look into it. I've never really cared for roles or norms and always stay true to myself. Maybe that means I'm in the same boat?

Have a good one! Fist-bump =)~

Thanks, I agree, it's always been abusive, even in the 90s. My grandparents were the ones pushing him to do it, though. I remember overhearing a conversation between one of my grandparents and my dad when he was taking me to an alternative school one day. He actually pushed back on them, saying he didn't want to do it. I saw him cry once when I asked him why he does it. He had a worse childhood than I did. My grandpa used to call him "fruit" a lot. But yeah, he clearly had ADHD and didn't know about it. He had this whole system where he would write down anything he didn't want to forget and he'd just cross it off the list as he got around to it. I saw my name on the list and crossed out once, lol. He never threw punches or anything like that. He'd just grab a belt after work if I got into trouble at school that day. There were more good times than bad; that's why I always lied to CPS for him. I loved my dad and still do. It's one of those situations where his dad was really abusive, he was kind of abusive, and I've sworn to never be like either of them. I've been compared to some Chaotic Good characters, and this is where the "good" comes from, I think. I decided early on to try and do what's right regardless of what other people think due to the dynamics between my father and his father.

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell turned into "Don't Ask, Don't Harass" once Obama got into office. I thought that was pretty cool. The structure was the best thing for me, honestly. I've been trying to recreate some of that, but it's been hard. Like just now, I went for a run around the neighborhood like I used to do right after getting out of the military. It's kind of dumb, but this is my favorite cadence to run to. Your left foot is supposed to hit the ground when they clap. It helps you forget about running.

The burnout was due to being on-call while simultaneously being underpaid. I wasn't allowed to really go anywhere because if I missed a call, then my backup would get called, and that always seemed to cause issues. I had to work all day, and my evenings were usually filled with emergencies too. Many nights I'd be stuck on a bridge for 6+ hours when I should have been asleep because some service went down and it was all hands on deck until service was restored. After my dad died, and right as the pandemic was starting, I quit my job and basically took an extended vacation for the next 8 months until I felt back to normal. The next job was a dream come true, but it was temporary because I was on a 12-month contract (the contract got renewed once, so it turned out to be a two-year gig). I had another job after that which wasn't a good fit, but I'm fully committed to DevOps-type work. I'd love to be a manager though, maybe I'll look into that. Anyway, I could never get burnt out from this type of work because it truly is my passion. I'm planning to get two jobs this time and work both of them simultaneously. It's called Overemployed. I've also started an educational website tailored for people with ADHD. It's going to be gamified in a way that makes learning easier for people who have a learning disability. I was thinking I might apply for a government grant too just for some extra cash if I qualify. Tech seems ageist to me, but only because my coworkers have always been older than me.

I'll check out those links you sent me. I'm mostly fine, just dealing with RSD from ADHD. It's all in my head though. I'm trying to get over it with exercise, but I may have just gotten the push I need to really make a change. Those are just statistics, and I don't feel like they apply to me. I've had plenty of counseling and training, and I know myself very well. I'm in a really good place mentally despite the hardships. Doesn't mean I don't struggle sometimes. I'm just lonely, not suicidal, ya know? Thanks for the concern, though.

And I'm not old yet =) You be well too

I love embracing change, but there are some things I still find challenging, particularly when it comes to forming close relationships. A lot of how I react and behave today is shaped by my early experiences. Growing up, ADHD wasn’t well understood, leading to harsh and toxic reactions from my own family. Facing constant verbal and sometimes physical abuse meant I had to learn how to defend myself from a very young age. This environment forced me to develop a quick, strong response to conflict—a mechanism that's become a part of how I assert myself today. Even though I've grown a lot and tried to adopt healthier ways to handle stress, my defiant nature can still emerge when I'm under pressure. This often leads me to push people away before they can get too close, as a way to protect myself from potential hurt or betrayal.

Recognizing and working through this is a big part of my journey towards healing. I’m trying to understand these behaviors and, hopefully, change them for the better. However, it’s been a struggle to shake the feeling that I might not be capable of being truly loved, given how ingrained these defensive responses have become. My journey through life has been marked by significant challenges that have both shaped and tested me:

As a child, I faced severe misunderstandings about my ADHD. This chaotic environment, marked by multiple interventions by Child Protective Services (CPS), taught me to be fiercely independent and self-reliant. These qualities, while helping me navigate many of life's challenges, have also made it difficult for me to form close personal relationships.

Due to these experiences, I find it challenging to follow instructions or requests without fully understanding the reasons behind them. This need for clarity and purpose is deeply rooted in my early years, where confusion and lack of understanding led to significant consequences. If I don’t see the logic or purpose behind an action, my immediate response is to question or resist it, a defense mechanism developed to protect myself from the unpredictability I faced during my formative years.

During my teen years, I faced continual challenges with acceptance both at home and at school, which eventually led to legal issues and incarceration. However, my release from detention became a pivotal moment for me. I met mentors who guided me toward a more positive direction, ultimately inspiring me to enlist in the Army.

My early to mid-20s brought some stability through the structured environment of military life. It was also during this period that I began sharing my life with a partner, learning about balance and mutual support in a relationship. While I had no problem getting close to others, my challenge often came in the form of defiance, a trait deeply rooted in my need to assert independence and protect myself from past vulnerabilities.

As I transitioned into my mid to late 20s, I moved into civilian life and pursued my passion for technology. This phase was crucial in building my self-esteem, as I found success and fulfillment in my career. However, my personal life sometimes struggled to keep pace due to my guarded nature, which often made me hesitant to fully open up in relationships.

My early to mid-30s marked a period of career advancement and significant life changes, including a major move supported by a new job. This time allowed me to establish myself professionally, but it also brought personal challenges. The death of my father and the impacts of the pandemic were profound, testing my emotional resilience and forcing me to confront and manage new waves of grief and stress.

Recently, I’ve dealt with professional burnout and personal loss, prompting a move back to St. Louis for a period of reassessment and new beginnings. This has given me a chance to reflect on my life and the patterns that have defined my relationships. Each chapter of my life has taught me about resilience, adaptation, and the importance of staying true to oneself. My life hasn’t been easy, but these experiences have shaped me into a more resilient and empathetic person. I'm still learning to navigate the complexities of love and intimacy, hoping to one day fully believe that I am worthy of being loved just as deeply as anyone else.

I started going to therapy, but then I lost my job. I'm planning to go back ASAP.

Oh, I always thought it was open source for some reason.

Not every site will accept your Proton address. You could generate a unique email mask for most sites and apps instead of giving them your real email address, wherever your inbox may be. Firefox Relay just forwards the emails it receives to whatever address you give it.

If your goal is to avoid reverse email searches, this is how'd I'd avoid giving my real email address out during signups.

Edit: I think Google won't accept a proton address, but I may be wrong

To answer your first question, I think switching to Proton is still worth it, even if you use Gmail for some things. I use Firefox Relay between my Gmail and Proton accounts. Generating a new email mask for every site/app has been no problem, except for a few sites like GitHub, Twitch, and Discord.

I love this post so much

Try living in a world where you can only give upvotes :)

I can definitely relate! I have the Predominantly Inattentive type of ADHD and sometimes wonder if there’s some overlap with autism too. I’ve only been paying attention to how I feel for a few months, so it’s interesting to see how differently ADHD affects everyone. I honestly had no idea about the differences in stims between ADHD and autism. The sensory issues and gender differences are new to me too, so I’m learning as I go. Here’s to both of us finding our way, fellow traveler in this fight =)~

CrossCode is really good, but it isn't free. I need to look through my Steam library to see which other games might be open source too. This is the only one I'm aware of, really. ProtonDB might have a list of games that are open source. It's a great resource for checking compatibility if you're playing on Linux.