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In the south? I thought this was murica!

Everyone! Dont you see! Isreal is trying to divert Russian troops from Ukraine. This is a win!!!

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Weirdly, Not as uncommon In my life. I had 2 arranged marriages that I am very happy fell through. My father kept trying to arrange with his customers kids. He made huge deal when I wouldn't indulge him any further.

Jockey literally lost his exoskeleton due to end of life.

Meanwhile EM people are using black magic design s-charts.

I keep seeing big cats in people's yards in NA.

They won 2 wars. Humans 0.

The year it came out it had quite a few cosplayers. I think most people do not know it because it was a short show that didn't need more seasons. It basically suffered from success. Its a good Halloween season show.

A few friends said that me. Pretty sure it was just to keep me going. Though One time my old 4th grade teacher stopped me when I went to my brother's parent day. Asked me if I was single and wanted to meet her child. Sadly I wasn't and my brother was there so couldn't lie even if It occurred to me to. Felt very random. Especially how forward she was on all that.

My God this poor woman. This just gets worst as it gets better. Her parents are colossal pieces of crap. As soon as something goes wrong they do nothing productive to fix and even go out of their way to make things worse. They should have taken her out if state to resolve this but no they were heartless and told her to keep a child and then get angry she doesn't have their heartless trait to let it go. What trashy people. I could rant on but to keep it short I hope these updates help OP in some way. If she is lucky maybe they will learn to love each other.

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My parents are forcing me to give my baby up for adoption - another update - Aug 23, 2024

I’m just feeling really sad and lonely. I guess that’s why I’m really posting an update here.

School started on Tuesday. My normal group of friends at school are basically ignoring me. At lunch I sit at the table with them but I’m sort of all by myself at the end of the table and nobody talks to me. They ignore me in the halls. I rather they just say something to me, tell me they never want to talk to me again or something. Just come out with it, you know?

I wanted to continue school. I don’t know if I’ll end up dropping out and getting my GED. I will definitely get my GED if I don’t finish regular high school. My parents won’t give me the required approval, but once I’m married that requirement should be waived. I feel like getting my GED as soon as I can might be the smartest move. That way I could start a full time job and figure out what sort of certification or further education I want to get. Another part of me wants to finish regular high school just to prove I can. I’m not interested in having the “traditional high school experience” at this point. That went out the window a while ago. It’ll be so hard to manage school with a baby though, and I don’t know how much longer I can take being the pregnant outcast. It’s like everyone just stares at me. Nobody says anything mean to my face. They just don’t talk to me at all anymore.

I’ve also moved into my baby’s father’s parent’s house. Thats complicated. He’s not really my boyfriend. I guess he’s my fiance but that feels weird to say. My future in-laws? I don’t know. It all sounds surreal. They’re so nice. There’s nothing wrong with them. But I’ve cried myself to sleep every night (I’ve only been here 5 nights). I’m so sad. Even though my parents were upset with my decision and things were tense without much communication in the last few weeks, I still miss my home and my room. I guess it’s not really my home anymore and it never will be again and that also makes me cry.

They set up a bedroom for me here. They painted the walls my favorite color. They got new furniture for me and everything. They didn’t have to do any of that. I don’t really know how to react. I feel like I owe them something. It makes me feel uncomfortable in a way.

I still can’t believe my parents just let me go. I thought maybe they’d change their mind. They don’t agree with any of my decisions and they’ve made that very clear.

My parents are forcing me to give my baby up for adoption - update, I’m married now - July 25, 2024

I’m about to be 32 weeks pregnant now. I can’t believe I’m due in 8 weeks. Thats just 2 months. I could actually have a baby by Halloween and that’s crazy to me. Seeing all of the Halloween stuff out everywhere scares me, but not for the reasons it’s supposed to. It scares me because it reminds me of how close I am to giving birth.

I’m married now. No matter how many times I say it, it doesn’t feel real. It seems like a joke or a bad dream. I don’t really like thinking of myself as married. It’s weird. I’m a kid really. It makes me feel sort of sick when I say it.

We got married this week after he graduated from basic training. His parents and I traveled together and his older brother, who is also in the military, met us there and it was the first time I ever met him. So after his graduation he had a day pass and we went to the courthouse and got married. I got very nervous beforehand and started crying and saying I couldn’t do it. In the end, I did it. I think his family might have been a little upset with me, and then I asked that they not be there when we actually got married since my family wasn’t there and having his family there but my family not there would just be too sad for me. Maybe that was wrong of me, idk. I just felt so weird about the whole thing. I felt nauseous the whole time, so uncomfortable. He was sort of annoyed with me because I’m the one who wants to keep the baby so bad so I’m the reason behind all of this, supposedly. Didn’t know that meant I couldn’t have a moment of panic right before it happened.

It’s not something I want to publicly advertise right now. It just feels so weird. Some people know about it and keep asking me for all these details and it’s like I don’t want to talk about it. It wasn’t some sort of cute special romantic thing.

His mom was being annoying too. Not on purpose. I know she was trying to do some nice, sweet, special things for us given the circumstances but I didn’t want any of that. It just made me feel so uncomfortable. Ordering special wedding cake desert for us, giving me jewelry from her family. I wanted to scream. But I don’t know how to communicate that I don’t want any of that and it makes me feel uncomfortable without hurting feelings. So he told her for me. That made me feel bad.

I went to this meeting they have for new military spouses. I felt like I was about to have an anxiety attack and pass out. I didn’t want to go. It was like “for spouses? Oh I’m not a spouse, it’s not for me.” Then I realize I am one.

We’re back home now. I mean me and his parents. He’ll be heading to his tech school which is far away from here. It’s a long tech school. No guarantee he’ll even be able to come home when our baby is born. He definitely will miss the birth either way. I get that that’s just how the military works but it’s so foreign to me and something I still have to get used to.

I guess I don’t have much more to update right now.

Reminder - I am not the original poster. DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS.

when I thought I’d have no choice but to sign adoption papers.

OOP updated after the earlier BORU post was made. - Aug 5, 2024

Hi. I found out my posts have been reposted on a best of redditors sub. Since then, I’ve literally received over 100 DMs. Some are very long messages and I’m sort of overwhelmed by all the messages. I can’t respond to all of them, but I’ve responded to some. Some people have been incredibly nice and I even cried happy tears over some of them because I can’t believe how nice and supportive some complete strangers are being. It means a lot because I obviously don’t have a huge amount of support in real life and I feel very alone, even though his parents want to help. Other messages are trying to convince me to choose adoption, while others are just outright cruel and have also made me cry. But the truly distirbing ones are from people wanting to adopt my baby, despite me already requesting that these people stop messaging me.

So, I’ll say it again: I’m not giving my baby up for adoption. If I did choose that, I wouldn’t choose a person who sent me an unsolicited message on Reddit. If the people who have messaged me about adopting my baby are real, you’re giving adoptive/hopeful adoptive parents a bad very bad name.

Look, I understand why some people think I should place my baby for adoption. But you’re wasting your time trying to convince me to do that now. I am decided. I’m keeping my baby. I know it’s going to be very hard. I have to give up a lot. I have to take on a lot that I wasn’t prepared to take on at this time in my life. I’m very scared. I know this is something I have to completely dedicate myself to, and I’ve committed to my decision and am moving forward even if I’m scared to death.

What would be supportive at this time is information from military spouses that might help to prepare me, educate me on resources, connect me to where I can find info. I think I’m going to try to find a community on here to post to if there’s a relevant community.

If you know of any non-military resources I might want to look into, I’d love to know about those.

If you have a career suggestion that I might want to look into, I’m totally open to hearing about it. I don’t plan to go to a 4 year college right away. Maybe later if it aligns with my life in the future. After I graduate high school or get my GED (I’m leaving my options open, but either way I will complete high school and be able to pursue further education of some sort), I want to get training and certifications for a good job field that I can get into rather quickly and that pays well. This isn’t wishful thinking. I know these jobs exist. There are some jobs, such as teacher, that quite a college degree and don’t pay well at all. There are some trades that pay very well. I don’t think I’m being unreasonable by forgoing a 4 year degree right now. I don’t have 4 years to wait to get into a career.

If you have parenting advice, especially anything related to a newborn, then I’d appreciate it.

Also, a more trivial question…do I get a white dress to get married in? I’m getting married at the courthouse and will be obviously pregnant. My parents would say no white but my parents aren’t involved and don’t get a say. I feel kind of silly wearing a white dress. I’m not talking a formal wedding gown, obviously not that type of event.

I don’t think being married, being a parent, or being a military spouse will be easy or like a Hallmark movie, but I think this is the best option I have and it WILL remove some of the biggest immediate stressors from my shoulders.

We’re getting married. It’s not something we’re considering. We’ve both agreed to it. He is the one that suggested it in the first place. This is our plan. I know he could change his mind over the next several weeks, and that’s just me being realistic. We’ll cross that bridge if we come to it. We’ll be able to communicate with him before graduation, so he better tell me then if he’s changed his mind. I will be going to his graduation with his parents and we will be getting married that weekend. I will then return home with his parents. I’ll be living with them and am preparing for that right now.

I will eventually move to where he will be stationed so that we can both raise our son. His parents shouldn’t be my co-parents, and there’s no other way for him to be there if I don’t go to where he’s at. He’s said this is his kid and his responsibility. I know he’s not happy to have a baby now or with me. But he’s willing to take responsibility for it and he says he wants to be a good dad.

At home in my house currently, not much has changed. Things are extremely tense between my parents and I. They remind me regularly how stupid my plan is and how I’m going to do this all alone without their support. I spend most of my time in my room. I also still have my part time job and I’m thankful when I’m not home. I have plenty of research and planning to do to keep me busy though.

Also, it wasn’t statutory rape. He was 17 when I got pregnant. I mean, he turned 18 within days of when it happened, but he was still 17. He did nothing wrong. He did not coerce me. He didn’t lead me on or lie to me. We both screwed up.

I’m also not doing this to have a baby to play with. I’m not a parent so I can’t know how hard it really is yet, but I know it’s going to the hardest thing I’ve ever done and could break me. I don’t think having a baby is like having a fun toy. But I love my baby, my little boy. I’m keeping him. I’m his mom. I’m going to do whatever I have to do for him. Do you think I want to move in with strangers? Do you think I want to get married in this situation? Leave school? Possibly struggle every step of the way from here on out? I know, adoption would be the solution that would allow me to not have to do those things, but this is my choice and I don’t want to be separated from my baby.