UnlimitedRumination

What the fuck

in 2020 in which female passengers were subjected to invasive gynecological examinations.

authorities were looking for the mother of a newborn baby found abandoned in a Hamad International Airport trash can

they were taken off the flight to Sydney at Doha at gunpoint by guards and were searched without consent.

Did I wake up 2,000 years ago or something? Am I still on earth?

Qatar was “surprised and shocked” that Australia had rejected without explanation its application for additional services to Sydney

Woooow. I literally don't know what to say.

I agree, and it drives me crazy when people say that about OCD. But I think there's a gap between the extremes, and if I have the potential to be wrong, I'd rather be wrong by being validating.

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(not arguing, just pondering) Actually now that I think about it, I don't think it's the opposite end of the spectrum at all, I think it's actually the same thing. If you think about it both are coming from not understanding that the disorder is (in my awkward words) the exaggeration of normal human behavior, specifically the exaggeration. Being able to relate to it isn't enough perspective alone.

Actually sometimes I do, because I have diabetes 😂

That's... sad for him that his perspective is so small. Many people seem incapable of understanding things like this no matter what you say. Hopefully he doesn't damage someone with his perspective.

I am not that experienced with EDs but I personally think the most important thing with most maintenance is not that you don't regress, but that you get back on that damn horse when you fall off. You doing that shows self-awareness and willingness to fail and keep trying to work on yourself, which is true strength. So many people easily fall into a spiral of self-hatred and give up, but no, you're doing the work, and it's hard. I have good reason to believe in you too.

You can also call them for advice on how to help someone else who is struggling.

I would ask your therapist about considering a PHP (don't know if this is US-specific). I won't define it myself because I'm sure your therapist can do better. It's a big decision but it is worth the time. To be honest, they really should teach the same stuff in school.

It might be a little overwhelming to present this as new information to someone, especially if they're suicidally depressed. I think triaging based on the passive/active scale is a decent way to assess danger while remaining simple. I don't have a strong sense of privacy for myself but I would imagine many people aren't super comfortable talking deeply about it to many people they just met. I would imagine as a HCP you could think of it like a pelvic exam. The fewer people who do their own on the patient, the better, because it's not fun for the recipient. I say that as a former paramedic and a... well-traveled... mental health patient.

Yes. I'm not a mental healthcare provider and oddly there seems to be a little bit of variance depending on who you're talking to, but I think the best way to separate the two is this (SI = suicidal ideation):

• Passive SI: wanting something to end your life; examples:
  • "I wish I was dead"
  • "I want to go to sleep forever"
  • "I wish I could just disappear"
  • "It would be nice if I got into a car accident or something and it killed me"
• Active SI: thoughts of dying from your own actions, including:
  • planning the act
  • making accommodations for others when you're gone
  • "daring" or testing yourself to see if you'll actually do it
  • speculating on a time and place
  • giving away personal belongings
  • fearing that you might do it

If you're having SI of any type the best thing you can do is see a therapist, but obviously if it is dire or an emergency then a hospital is the answer. There are other treatment options at levels in between seeing a therapist weekly and going to a hospital that many people don't know about (and a a surprising number of doctors don't tell you about) that insurance should cover.

I have a lot of personal experience with this stuff and I'm happy to answer anything anyone is curious about.

Haha yeah, it's funny how many of the biggest decisions in life end up being made on the spur of the moment when you have to rather than after careful thought and deliberation. Or what seem like small moments that suddenly become much bigger that you never forget. I'm not sure if I'm making sense but at least I get what you're saying! 😜

I find frequently even people who have the same disability or an adjacent one can say some really ignorant stuff, almost as if their struggles gives them a license to judge others. Relating to others' struggles is good and validating, but don't let it turn into a comparison.

Even for myself, I didn't understand the whole picture of what ptsd can do to you when I was dealing with just anxiety. Now that I've experienced it, I understand the fucking sheer terror that is living in hypervigilance mode, it really seems unfathomable if you haven't been there. And I have no idea if I experience it like others do. Not saying one is worse than the other but they are not just variations of the same thing.

I'm looking forward to the world being a better place when people in general understand it's best not to try and decide for someone else what their experiences mean to them, and nobody wins when you compare suffering. I hope we make a lot of progress in my lifetime.

I thought it was birds dancing that was for mating. But then again, I do dance for my girlfriend. Not great for mating, but she always laughs so I've got that going for me.

That tracks. I suppose it depends on whether I'm doing it to attract a mate or just doing it to feel good about myself.