You don't have to encrypt the message, simply observing it won't compromise security. You only need to ensure that the channel is 1) authenticated (that is, you know who you send to) 2) cannot MITM you (that is, replace the link). MITM can be mitigated with security code verification via yet another channel, but SimpleX relays cannot MITM key exchange (unlike any centralised service).
yes, occasionally :)
just delete them after a set time - preset servers have it at 21 day