grizzly_dw

Like I said... No. Balls.

Over the past decade or so, gamers have been psychologically conditioned to accept lootboxes and microtransactions as a standard part of the gaming experience (especially younger people who don't even remember a time before lootboxes).

Similarly, I think the "corporate internet" era has also forcefully conditioned FOMO onto the majority of people. So many people coming over to Lemmy/Kbin have literally said something along the lines of, "I don't like the fragmentation, if I'm not subscribed to every single instance then I feel like I'm missing out."

I was able to complete it by changing world tier to tier 1.

I had read stuff about making sure the event outside isn't active but that didn't seem to make a difference. Switched to tier 1 and it was good. Or I guess try a different tier if you're currently playing on tier 1.

If you go into the cave and the wall at the back is attackable before you talk with the NPCs, then it's still bugged. The wall should not become attackable until after she gives her speech.

Yeah, I'm sure that kind of "polite instigation" has been used for as long as civilization has existed. It's damn effective.

Sad part is, I imagine there are some people who genuinely aren't meaning to be hateful, but get caught in the trap and inadvertently spread those same talking points. And like you mentioned elsewhere in the comments, when you rely solely on top-down bans to remove the potential dickheads, it does start to seem pretty authoritative. It's a tough problem.

But like you said, hopefully the ability for horizontal movement among other instances will allow for more "peer moderation." I like how someone else in this thread put it: "it's not alt accounts, you just walked into the wrong bar to start picking this fight."

I don't want to participate in this conversation, but I want to leave a note for any people who may be casually scrolling this thread, reading the exchange, and wondering how you feel about it.

You are witnessing, in real time, a technique that has been popularized by alt-right influencers like Ben Shapiro and Stephen Crowder as a means to be racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic/etc online and then play the victim when people get mad about it.

The first step is to post something that at first glance seems rational, logical, and supported by facts, which portrays a particular minority group in a bad way. There are lots of these kinds of "arguments" available all over the web, and I'm willing to bet the "well thought out" comment that got the above user banned was mostly copy/pasted. It's similar to the "despite making up X% of the population, black people cause Y% of crime" thing you see posted from time to time, as @[email protected] mentioned. They often use real facts and data, but typically skewed or taken out of context to push a particular agenda.

The next step is ideally to have someone from that minority group get mad and call them a bad word. Then they can sit back, sip their tea, and say, "See? I told you that gays/jews/trans/blacks/whatever are the REAL bigots! I'm just trying to have a conversation and they start calling me names and banning me."

In cases like this, where @[email protected] is attempting to call them out in a civil tone, they play the "you're just mad because you don't agree" card. Or the "you didn't provide a master's thesis counterargument" card. Or the "I never actually said a slur so how is it hate speech" card. No matter what you say to them, no matter how you try to approach the "argument", they will twist it around so that you are wrong. They'll keep doing it until you finally lose your cool, which goes back to the first step.

In the worst case, no one takes the bait and they get ignored. But even this is still a win, because it means they get to spread their hateful propaganda freely. And a lot of times there will be casual onlookers, with no strong feelings about the matter, who see the exchange and think, "Hmm, that person is being civil and reasonable and all these pro-trans people are getting angry and calling them names. Maybe they're right, and trans people ARE all mentally unstable. I'm going to save their 'well thought out' comment for later." And so it spreads.

Call it gaslighting, call it trolling, it doesn't matter. Think of it like this. Imagine two young brothers riding in the back seat on the way to Disneyland. The older brother is tormenting the younger brother by poking him constantly. "Mom! He's poking me!" says the younger. "Stop poking your brother" says the mom. So what does the older brother do? He puts his finger right in front of the younger brother's face. Not quite touching him, but close enough to be extremely annoying. "Mom, he's still bothering me!" says the younger. "No, I'm not actually touching him" says the older, laughing. Finally, the mom has had enough. She turns the car around and says the trip to Disney is cancelled. The older brother, now furious, points at the younger brother: "LOOK WHAT YOU DID!"

The exchange you're looking at is basically the grown-up version of the big brother in the backseat. They don't want to have a discussion. They don't even want to argue. They just want to piss of whichever minority group they hate, without technically breaking any rules ("I'm not actually touching you!"). And then, if they do get banned, they move on to the next space and say "Those out-of-control gays/jews/trans/blacks/whatever banned me from the last forum, but I'm sure THIS forum actually supports free speech and honest discussion. Did you know that despite making up X% of the population..."

Unfortunately, the best thing you can do is ignore them and hope the moderaters clean them out. It becomes a problem on big sites like reddit where mods are already swamped with thousands of other issues. But hopefully in the federated world, communities will mostly stay small enough to be manageable.

the discussions were so much more organic

Yeah, that's one of the main reasons I really just lurked on reddit and never commented. For every post that showed up in top/hot sorting, I already knew what the top 10 comments would be before I even clicked. And it's not even like echo chamber type comments, but more just the same old reddit-isms that would get used over and over again. Like every "discussion" is basically a race to see who can be the first to say the thing, and somehow those comments always end up getting the most upvotes. I've already seen a few getting used here on Lemmy. Hopefully the community will learn to stop encouraging that kind of behavior.