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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Har fået en mail fra EDC om at de er blevet hacket, og de anbefaler at oprette en kreditadvarsel på borger.dk, for at undgå at der kan optages lån i mit navn.

Jeg er så også igang med at købe bolig, så jeg skal lige præcis have godkendt et nyt lån i denne måned…

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I really loved A Psalm for the Wild-Built by Becky Chambers.

It hit me right at a time when I needed it, and made me feel that change might actually be ok.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I don’t really notice that I’m thirsty, so I used to go full work days without drinking anything other than a glass of water that my colleague gave me at lunch, then feeling strangely tired when going home.

The end result was a kidney stone. After that painful experience, I always have a bottle of water in my office, and make sure that I drink one bottle before lunch and another in the afternoon.

On days off from work, I still forget to drink, because I don’t have my water bottle there to remind me.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

At my age, this has happened more times than I care to admit. With some people, it’s like no time passed at all, and everything is great.

With others, it has become very evident why we lost touch.

I haven’t discovered a way of seeing who is what type without just trying to reconnect and seeing what happens.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I run into this in periods due to working too much and just not having the energy. The key for me is to give up on any intellectual ambitions for a while, and just go for something that’s quick and easy to read.

After I’ve started reading regularly again, I can then ramp up the difficulty until I suddenly reach that stage again where I feel like “it’s weird how I just don’t read anymore”, and I have to start over.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’m not so keen on the recipes that use yoghurt, I feel that it gives me the wrong texture, so I’ve settled on this recipe that I think gives great flavor and great texture for very low effort.

https://gimmedelicious.com/easy-20-minute-butter-chicken/

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Thank you, that's a helpful analogy. I'm self taught in most of the things that I enjoy, but since this is something that I don't enjoy, I might try to find myself a coach for this one. :)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

That's a good point. I should change my ambitions and join something more local and regular instead of trying to break through instantly at a thing with 2000+ people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Thank you. Looking at my own progression, it actually makes a lot of sense that practice without feeling anxious won't help (apart from training on what to say, or for example spotting when people lose interest because a story becomes too detailed.) I can talk all I want with those people I feel comfortable with, or in situations that I know how to navigate. As soon as someone I'm not comfortable with shows up, I still go numb.

So the only way to break down the barrier is to deliberately and repeatedly set it up and punch through it. I think I have something that could work for that, which happens regularly and which I have sort of wished that I could be a part of. Do you think it's possible for me to practice by myself, or do I need a therapist in the mix?

 

I just got back from two days at a giant conference. Every year I go, and my dream is to join in the community that it is a part of, and every year I come back, having talked to no one at all.

I can plan things to say, and then just shut down when the opportunity comes. I can also plan too far and figure that I won't have anything more to say after the initial contact, so why bother?

I've read various books on social anxiety and the old "How to win friends", but I just don't feel like they're helpful. Does anyone know of any resources that take autism and selective mutism into consideration?