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Dating app Bumble will no longer require women to make the first move | CNN Business
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I’m going to take a wild guess and wager that this is about increasing engagement by increasing the amount of opening moves that are created on the platform.
Dating sites profit by increasing engagement with the platform, not by getting you an “authentic connection” that gets you off the platform and into a healthy relationship.
There’s a reason people are going analog again. They know these sites are just a thirst trap.
Calling it a thirst trap is too innocent. These dating app companies are scum-sucking vampires designed to make most people feel lonely and desperate enough to give them money in perpetuity. People just handed one of the most important and intimate aspects of their lives over to US tech bros, pressured everyone else to do the same, and two whole generations are not just having less sex than their parents, but half of them have never had a long-term relationship as they're approaching 30.
Hah I didn’t even need a dating app for that
Yeah, fckng amateurs
At least you are the master of your own destiny
Why can't we go back to meeting people on BBS and forums. Shit I met my partner in 2009 on a forum. It was organic and real, no apps, no algorithms just good ol' fashion php with a dash of flame war.
Or just... talk to people IRL? I met my wife at my apartment complex, and plenty more meet their SOs at a local social event or whatever. Go to meetups for stuff you're interested in and talk to people. I trust that way more than dating apps that pair you with strangers given a short bio...
Yeah, talking to people sucks, I get it. I'm quite introverted and need to relax after putting myself out there. When I met my wife, we texted for 2-3 days before I had enough social energy to ask her out on a date, even though I was quite interested in her. She's a little introverted as well, so we're a good match.
Text is way easier for me, but in-person is way more effective. Most of my friends met their SOs in person at some kind of meetup, whether a DND night, tech meetup, or a dance (not a club, that's way too loud). Online worked for my brother, but I just don't see nearly as much success as with in-person meetups, at least among my friends.
Eh, that could be true. I'm just relating my experience and trying to be helpful.
I'm quite introverted, so spending time in social situations can be very draining. This doesn't apply as much to digital communication, but I do find myself delaying responding if it could turn into a social situation (e.g. someone asks if I'm busy, I'll often just not respond until it's too late, "oh no, sorry I missed this, maybe next time..."). I'm not socially awkward or anything, I just prefer to avoid socializing with people (COVID was actually fantastic for me since I didn't need excuses).
I'm imagining that a lot of single people who don't want to be single fall into that category as well. So that's where I'm coming from.
When we first met, I was super into her, and it was obvious that she was into me because she asked for my number, she texted first, etc (I walked up to her though). I really liked her, but I wasn't up to actually spending time with her, so I made excuses until I was ready to give her my full attention. But that couldn't have happened if I had stayed home. In fact, she moved out of town a month or two later, so we dated long distance for a year until we were able to be together.
So my advice is to put yourself into social situations that are relatively comfortable for you. Don't make the primary goal to find romance, make the goal to find someone that enjoys what you do (even if they're not a possible romantic partner).
That's fair advice. Thanks for your good intentions. I'm very sorry about the snark. That was uncalled for.
Met my first girlfriend on a forum that's name in english would be masturbation.org, she contacted me. The second one I met on my country's equivalance of Omegle. The current one I found on Instagram.
Turns out that if you put even a little effort into your first message and for the very least make sure the grammar is on point and save the dickpic for later, she may actually reply back. The bar isn't very high if you want to stand out. Seeing the kind of messages she gets almost daily really shows how pathetically low effort they are. It's clear as day that you're just one of the 50 girls he messaged today.
I feel like I saw somewhere that men message dozens of times more women than vice versa. I get their non-nuanced temptation but you can hardly call a system that encourages one gender to incessantly spam the other 'engagement'.
I read that men have to send over 110 likes before they get a single response whereas women get 50-60 guys a day messaging them and they act really creepy like sending dick pics.
It's absolutely true. I'm polyamorous, and various women I've dated over the years have shared their dating app situations with me. Not one of them didn't have 999+ likes and/or a dozen messages from new men on that day alone (depending upon the app).
I prefer apps like Hinge and OKCupid. They allow me to tell more about what I'm about, and I get to learn more about them as well before I attempt to reach out. I've had fairly good success with both.
Hinge is the only one I use anymore. Honestly, you need to be able to say something. Just swiping doesn’t do shit. If they paywall that feature they’ll be sunk in no time. I’ll be the first to leave. But I’ve been dating someone for a little and it might turn monogamous soon. So, guess we’ll see.
If I may, out of curiosity, you say it "might turn monogamous soon"; when you first started dating, what were each of your dating styles? Has one of you been more monogamously-minded than the other? Is one person more interested in monogamy than the other?
That's the way it works in real life tho...it's not the apps fault. Women always have more options than men.
I will never understand this take.
Logically speaking this is simply incorrect.
Have you been on a dating app? The experience is extremely gender specific. Men spend their time sending out as many likes as are available, and women spend their time sorting through likes they get. This is the experience for either gender unless you're at the very high or low end of the desireability spectrum.
That is the way dating apps work.
Isnt being approached by creeps part of the 'authentic' experience?
Not on your phone, though. That's just ambush after ambush. Statistically, IRL there a higher chance of escape in that analog.
(Hol' up. What's a double entendre that's not sexual called?)
I don't think double entendre is necessarily sexual
Double meaning?
Yeah, I was thinking a portemonteau, but that's incorrect
A pun, usually.
It's wild to me that anyone would say that sentence and not immediately realize they sound like an emotionless robot. Like damn, who would've thought people have a great need for authentic human connections? Not me!
This kinda shit you hear from people so deep in the world of product marketing is sickening and really shows how disconnected from they are from both reality and the point of selling a good product: benefitting people. I guess I'm just glad to see more stories of people ditching dating apps as they continue to become more predatory and less helpful.