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Excuse my ignorance, but how do you define a difference between "man" and "masculinity"? Is it just how you see yourself? Like you might present as fem but think of yourself as a man, or present as masc but think of yourself as a woman?
I'm a woman. I don't understand femininity though and it plays no part in making me who I am
Thanks, that helps!
Exactly that, yes. I used to think of myself as a 100% man who just has some feminine qualities, until I had a mind-and-eye-opening experience that helped me to better understand myself. But I know there are plenty of men who present as feminine, yet still identify as men.
And I'm a trans woman, yet I have no connection to femininity.
It's a performance I can do, and sometimes even enjoy, but I have no sense of it being related to who I am
Ya, I am a man that doesn't mind being seen as feminine sometimes. I've never thought of myself as a woman or wished I was a woman, but I have wished people cared less about gender and presentation.
That's been exactly my concern, too. It's why I never considered my own gender past my birth sex. That being said, I've wished throughout my life that I could switch from man to woman and back, but never thought of it as more than fantasy until I had a life-changing experience a few days ago.
I still wish people didn't care so much about it, which is why I like using a numerical scale; it removes the social construct of labels and their myriad implications/connotations, and allows us to just use simple, universally-understood numbers.