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How bad of an idea would it be for me to try joining a dating app? (hexbear.net)

submitted 6 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I want to meet people around my age who I can spend lots of time with either romantically or just friends or something. I have recently just turned 21 years old and I have never really dated anyone in real life or even kissed anyone. I don't have a job, I don't drive and I still live with my parents. I am really just a talentless fool trying to be some sort of artist and taking community college classes without any real idea or direction in life. Am I even deserving of love and friendship here in the 21st century? I want to be a better person but I don't know if I have the strength to become who I want to really be on my own. Being socially isolated for so long has really affected my mind a lot and how I view myself. I don't really know what I am or how I can fit in with any group of people. I need some sort of social validation. I would like to have at least one person who understands me well who I can share anything with. What would be the least terrible option for me to meet local strangers via the internet? Or is there some better way of meeting people that I have not considered?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

I’m two days late and a bit drunk! If you have friends who are attracted to your gender (I’m assuming you’re straight - from what i’ve heard grindr is way more fun) have them take your photos for you. A lot of the interactions are very materialistic and basic, but if you stick with it (and have a good profile) you’ll 100% meet people who are very lovely. Just make sure you’re not placing all your hopes on them - if it’s a “fuck it why not” deal it’s significantly less crushing, and can be honestly really good for self esteem.

(I know, I know, step 1: be attractive, but all that shit is relative - the nicest guy I know is not very conventionally hot but he found a lovely girlfriend on Tinder and he’s very happy now)

That being said, I’m scared to post here and I was all over tinder so maybe i’m just an idiot!

Also, I was at community college living with my parents when I was 21 with no friends. I know exactly how you feel. You deserve love and will find it. There are so many people in the same boat (especially at that age!) It helped me to just assume that everyone was as lonely as I was and go from there. It’s surprisingly close to the truth.

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