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What's the best wax-on-wax-off-style advice you've heard that you can attest as being helpful in certain situations? (lemm.ee)

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[–] [email protected] 69 points 6 months ago (2 children)

“Confidence coffee”.

Let me explain; when you go on stage, you’re nervous and you need some water because your mouth dries out. Bring water in a mug/travel mug.

It’s self regulating. The dryer your mouth is, the more you need to drink water. The more you appear to sip coffee while publicly speaking, the more relaxed you look.

Compare to swigging from a water bottle; your nerves are on public display.

Confidence coffee=water in an opaque coffee container.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I wonder why water indicates nerves and coffee indicates confidence. It totally makes sense to me but I have no idea why.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

Yeah I can’t explain it either. But it’s just the way.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Could you just actually drink coffee? I mean I guess the caffeine isn't necessarily the best for situations of anxiety, but I find a cup of coffee really relaxing and if it helps when it looks like you're drinking it I wonder if really drinking it wouldn't help similarly.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

Depending on your level of caffeine tolerance/dependency actual coffee might be even better.

Alternatively: Decaf.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Personally I drank coffee once and I'm never doing it again. I thought I was about to die, lol. I'll probably stick to water. I however really like the idea of signaling that I'm having coffee although I'm not