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Serious: struggling with misogynistic thoughts (hexbear.net)

submitted 5 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2766019

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Without getting into too much detail...I have been abused by women most of my life. I finally ended an abusive marriage with a female narcissist. I have never really struggled with this issue up until recently.

I am finding that I am often dismissed and not believed when I try to discuss this issue, even to therapists and my lawyer (all whom have also been female). I have almost no resources or support. There are no men's groups for this issue in my area. Often online I will see people mock people like myself. I have even had people on socialist sites dismiss situations like mine. It is beyond frustrating.

I understand how it is and I know that patriarchy and misogyny are still huge issues, but I've noticed myself feeling very resentful towards a lot of women recently and sometimes veer into misogynistic thoughts.

I don't want to be like this, but I am struggling.

Any advice on what I can do to control these thoughts and retrain my brain?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

stalin-heart I'm sorry, man. I don't have any good advice for you but I hope you find the support and friends you need, comrade. My first serious girlfriend in high school was abusive in different ways, fucked me up for a while especially since I was so young. But everyone believed me though because she didn't have enough shame to hide her behavior from anyone. Anyway, it's not your fault but it isn't the fault of women generally either. It's easier said than done, but I hope you can prevent yourself from falling into that darkness of misogyny.