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What's a good way to tell people who ask for my contact info that I don't do social media without sounding unintentionally condescending? (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Sometimes people I just met (in a platonic context) will ask me things like "hey, what's your Instagram, let's keep in touch!"

My standard answer is that I don't do social media, but I have found that people take it as bragging perhaps? I get answers like "oh, good for you! I wish I didn't" or whatever.

If I say oh here's my number that seems too odd these days, people not that much younger than me (I'm 31) don't seem to text anymore. They use fb messenger or Instagram or others.

Also saying something like "I'm a privacy advocate and I use the fediverse" is also an odd thing to say unless I'm around techy people and even then it's weird tbh.

How do I approach this? I don't think I am better than people that use social media, its just not for me. I would prefer to text but I am not sure that works for a lot of people.

Or should I just bite the bullet and get an Instagram so that I don't seem weird, and then perhaps ask for further contact details via that platform?

Abstaining from social media can be extremely alienating.

autistic btw if you couldn't tell lmao, I have spent a lot of time thinking about this problem

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I just tell the truth. I don’t have social media because I don’t see the benefit of it.

Plus it wasn’t good for me mentally as I would spend too much type arguing over dumb shit with idiots.

And it does more bad for society than good. If people don’t agree then I probably don’t want to be friends with them anyway. Not that I’m dropping old friends, but new ones should be similar in interests and if they’re not that’s fine, they will find people they can relate to more and each to their own.

I don’t want the last paragraph to seem like I’m judging people for using socials, I don’t care what people do, but I do care that friends are similar to me as we will get on more and have similar interests.

Apply below to be my friend.