I feel that. Personally, I loved reddit back then and Lemmy now, because it's content-focused instead of user-focused. But it still has enough user accountability for it to work out, unlike e.g. something like the *chans, where it devolves into a cesspool of edgy nonsense quickly.

On Lemmy/old Reddit, there are visible powerusers and drama, sure, but on average the experience one will have when posting something is engagement with their content, instead of engagement with their person.

I never was able to get into any other social media, never really saw the appeal of it either. I feel like I want to not be seen, at least not intensely, and instead my content and my thoughts and opinions to be engaged with, reflected, developed. Most social media has only gotten worse in drifting into the other direction, with people becoming brands advertising themselves as a marketable package, chasing that dream of living on fame.