Hi folks, I thought I'd create some content and share some experience and learning around any concerns I had about being childfree in my first 10 years after my tubal. I hope this can help those that are at this stage now.
I will say that 35 years after my tubal, I realized in retrospect, somewhere during that time, that I knew in my teens I didn't want kids. I did go through a period, soon after my tubal at 24, of about 10 years where a lot of my friends tried to pressure me into either spending a ton of time with their kids or even adopt, where I wondered if I really wanted kids cuz I liked babies under 6 months of age. It wasn't until I got close to someone and her newborn, where I spent plenty of time with her kid over the next 3 years and she was TOTALLY accepting of my decision and NEVER pushed an agenda. I finally realized I truly lost interest in the kid after about 6 months of age and knew I wasn't interested, not because I was pushing back against acquaintances who were pushing their own agenda in opposition to mine, but because I JUST LOST INTEREST. It took a good, secure in their parenthood, friend to let me understand there was zero interest on my part.
As it turns out what I like about babies was the oxytocin hit from carrying them around, which I learned I could get from cats and small dogs, of which I have 2 now, and they stay small forever instead of just 6 months!
The comment you're replying to mentions the release of oxytocin when cuddling with an animal similar to oxytocin release when holding a baby. This is a proven fact. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6826447/#:~:text=Simple%20Summary,linked%20to%20positive%20emotional%20states.
You're comparing taking a shit with the hours long process of labor and bringing a life into the world. The 2 are nowhere near comparable
"You're comparing taking a shit with the hours long process of labor and bringing a life into the world. The 2 are nowhere near comparable."
Thank you for agreeing with me, I'm glad you came around.