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Honestly, I’m proud of you, but be careful with what your wife really thinks. My dad brought that up to my mom after 20 years and their relationship is as cold as ice now. She basically said that “he lied to me, by not being upfront when we got married… “ basically she supports it, but it’s not what she wanted in a relationship.
I know you’re probably looking for feel good responses, as it’s a big step, but I had to throw this out there because I’ve seen it personally.
This is definitely one of those truths. In situations like this, it's both right that someone should be their best happiest self...but it's also true the other partner had their own expectations for a relationship, which might not be one where she's partnered to someone taking their life in a wildly different direction than what was expected early in the relationship.
It's a case where neither party is necessarily wrong, but things can end up hurting on both sides. Kind of like if other things were thought to be communicated early on, and is changed...like someone saying they're child free then trying to have a baby, or someone saying they intend to focus on career then doing something to wildly impact finances of the couple. Changing one's mind isn't wrong, nor is growing and learning about yourself, it's natural, but it can cause an incompatibly to pop up in a relationship that hurts or ends it, esp if it's not talked about, and esp if it's on a topic that greatly changes the nature of a relationship from the original agreement or assumptions and beliefs.
Thank you for understanding it and stating it more eloquently than I could. I was scared to bring it up for being “too negative” but I lived through seeing things more closely than I cared to.