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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's not necessary, no, but it can totally be a pro, unless you just don't want to be friends with your lover.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Basically what I've said, some people don't want friends.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

So are you a loner or you don’t want a friend who is constantly around?

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I don't wanna people around besides my partner and I don't want her relatives around me. It seems like these days is impossible to have a relationship that is just you and your woman, or you and your man and that's it. There's always someone else.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

How exactly do you expect to find someone who you want to be around when you by your own admission hate literally all interactions with other people? Newsflash: sex is a social interaction. Are you imagining that she's just going to pop out of a lamp like a Genie? And where does she go after you blow your load? Do you just put her back in the closet like a blow-up doll?

Just admit that what you really want is a sex worker and be honest. It sounds like you have no interest in tolerating someone else's presence unless they are actively banging you. A relationship is about so much more than just sex.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

So does that extend to her friends as well? Or is it just family you have a problem with? Also, is it about family that is constantly around and in your business or just that the family feels like they’re part of the relationship too?