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egg_irl — Memes about being trans people in denial and other eggy topics

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!egg_irl

!egg_irl is for widely relatable memes about questioning one's gender or being an egg (a trans person in denial) as well as other eggy topics.

If you are looking for a place to discuss something specific to you or especially if you need help or are in crisis, we have communities and resources that can support you linked at the bottom of this sidebar.

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  1. No bigotry.

  2. No spam, bots, or vote farming.

Rules on Content:

  1. No reposts.

  2. No personal-life posts, bingo cards, quizzes, selfies, "trans/not trans" lists, picrew, or non-memes.

  3. No visible names or usernames.

  4. Do not post or link to pornography.

Rules on Post Titles and Tags:

  1. Posts must be titled "egg_irl". An emoji or two is OK, but they have to be between "egg" and "irl".

  2. Posts that assume the viewer's gender and/or contain potentially triggering content must be spoilered and tagged at the beginning of the post title. Example content-warning tags that you can copy include the following:

    • [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transmasc]
    • [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem]
    • [CW: Assumes Viewer is Nonbinary]
    • [CW: Transphobia]
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  3. You may optionally include other tags, such as:

    • [Transmasc Meme]
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    • [Nonbinary Meme]
    • [Gender-Nonspecific Meme]

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  1. If possible, include an image description for accessibility.

  2. Add sources for art.

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  1. If a post is tagged with a specific gender identity, keep the conversation centered on that identity.

  2. You must follow the Egg Prime Directive. You may not push or coerce people into identifying or not identifying a certain way. You must respect them as the gender they claim to identify as. In addition it is extremely in poor taste to make assumptions about other people's identities based on external factors, we understand it cannot be helped but it is best not to as it can affect the way you treat others in noticeable ways.

Recommendations:

We strongly encourage you to include your pronouns in your account bio so that others know how to refer to you without misgendering you. If you're questioning or unsure of your pronouns, that's totally cool—just say so.

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[–] [email protected] 52 points 1 month ago (14 children)

I'm glad you cracked your egg this way, and maybe I'm reading into this too much, but I really don't like reinforcing the idea that any man who chooses the female player option in a video game must secretly be trans.

Every time I boot up Sonic Advance I play as Tails. That's partly because he has the best ability and partly because he's by far the cutest, and the only thing better than playing Sonic Advance is doing so while staring at that adorable bean. That doesn't mean I secretly want to see him when I look in the mirror.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (8 children)

It's not reinforcing that idea. For the author of the comic, she played as women in games and later discovered she was one. You can play as whatever character you want to play as and it doesn't have to say anything about you.

I always played as girls and women in games when I had the choice. I also gravitated towards books with female protagonists. Like the author of the above comic, I also ended up discovering my womanhood and transitioning. This community, egg_irl, is for trans people. Nominally for memes to do with things we did before we came out that now make sense to us after the fact.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

RIght but see, the problem is that this does make a statement that doing certain things makes you trans, whether it's going for it or not. As I said in my response to @[email protected] the behavior shown constitutes a violation of the egg prime directive because it makes assertions about another person's gender identity. It also normalizes and to some extent encourages that behavior.

I don't disagree with you that this community is for helping trans people come to terms, but I'm still not a fan of memes that normalize reinforcement of that idea in the way that is happening in this comic. As a GNC person it feels really shitty to be told that your gender identity is wrong by other people, whether direct or subtle. It's one of the reasons for the egg prime directive in the first place.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Sorry, I read the sidebar (egg prime directive) and now see how this post normalizes other people questioning someone's identity.

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