Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/stinkygirlthrowra on 2023-07-27 23:11:12.

Throwaway cause this is embarrassing.

I (23F) do not shower daily. I don’t like showering, but I still do it when I stink or if I sweat a lot that day. My boyfriend (23M) thinks it’s gross that I only shower every other day. He says it’s “just what you’re supposed to do” and “most people shower daily.” Personally I have known several people that shower every other day.

I ask him all the time if I smell, and he says no. I take care of my hygiene otherwise (I use a bidet, I wash my face & brush my teeth 2x a day, deodorant 2x a day), but he still insists on pressuring me to shower even though that ruins my schedule.

At first he just made lighthearted jokes like calling me stinky girl (we both call each other names) but recently he’s become more insistent and put off by the fact I don’t shower since we began living together. Again, he says I don’t stink, but it’s still not hygienic. I just hate showering and I have a set personal routine that I stick to. I have never been told I stink.

We got into a fight after he asked me to shower before going to his parent’s house for dinner, and I said no, it’s not a shower day. Again, I asked if I stink or look dirty/greasy and he said not necessarily, but it’s rude to show up unshowered. I refused to shower and he seemed upset with me the rest of the night. Am I a stinky girl? AITA?