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Never finished degree and I feel stuck/suicidal over it (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I started uni 2014 and I've still yet to finish it because of life BS. Dealing with depression / ADHD has made finishing my degree seem impossible for me to do and I feel like an absolute failure everyday because of it. I wasted many semesters attempting clases and then dropping out when my grades weren't good.

My parents both graduated by their early 20s and had me at 23; I'll be 29 soon and I still live with them working at a Walmart to make ends meet and even with that I'm about to be fired for poor performance. I feel depressed being there because I was given everything in life to be successful and yet I wasted my 20s away being depressed / suicidal. All of my friends all have graduated long ago and have better jobs and I get envious seeing them being successful. All I think about is splattering my brains all over the wall.

I don't have a plan to follow, every day I'm just hating myself for wasting my best years over stupid shit instead of focusing.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

I don't have any real advice, other than to try to see a psych if you can (it takes a lot of the burden off if you get medicated and therapy - not all, but a lot) but I wanted to let you know you aren't alone here. I spent my 20s in much the same way - spending... more time than I care to admit getting mediocre grades in college and fighting my mental health every step of the way. Always felt like a failure, like I wasted my potential. Hell, I still feel that.

Spent most of my 20s living with my grandparents and loathing myself. Didn't get out until the tail-end of my 20s, and even that was half-luck. Getting out... helped. I still struggled with depression and suicide, but a lot of self-recrimination ended once I had some manner of independence. And hell, I never held down a steady job through all of my 20s. You aren't alone. It's not some exceptional failing of you or your character. And it's not hopeless. I hope (ha) that doesn't sound too patronizing. It's hard to tack between acknowledging the seriousness of your issue and your struggle while trying to emphasize that triumph is still possible.

Guess all I can really say is, as a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, suicide is... not as appealing as it might first seem in the heat of the moment.