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First off, calling those cheesy reality dating competition shows “straight camp” is brilliant, definitely gotta start using that.
I do find it rather illuminating, the statistic on French partners having lower dissatisfaction rates due to a more robust welfare state for child care. Like, there’s this standard assumption that in these double income households with kids, if the men just did more laundry and “mental labor” things would be happier. While I’m not saying men should shirk responsibilities, thinking that all that can be done by two people and they’ll both be satisfied is wrong. One thing the video didn’t mention is that the modern nuclear conception of the family is a big contributor to this because the standard for most of history was, you had extended family that would share child and household duties. Even a lot of those “ideal” nuclear households of the mid-20th century with stay at home moms were dependent upon nannies and housekeepers.
I also liked the section on the podcast guest being frank about liking men because, men’s arms and abs and yes, penises are hot. Even after all these decades of “sexual liberation” there’s still this stigma around women saying they enjoy sex for the carnal pleasure. And not just from the usual social conservatives. That was the fundamental problem in the political lesbianism she discussed, it assumed female sexuality could be divorced from what women actually desired. Which is fundamentally the same mentality as the Victorian era “just close your eyes and think of England.”
This is true. Most housework is pretty low impact or can be done in a couple of hours every few weeks. Childcare is pretty much all of your child's waking hours and there is an economy of scale to multigenerational living. In a lot of cultures, it's older people who are not fit for other forms of labor that do the bulk of the childcare.
Not to mention the standards for childcare have increased considerably, due to 1) living in a low trust society 2) less social mobility. No longer can school age children cross a couple of lawns and go to the park by themselves. And middle class women are tasked with a lot of the enrichment that can be hired out by the wealthy or is provided on a public basis in better-run societies.