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I found this video very fascinating and would love to hear all my fellow non-cishets feel about it. Personally I found it really cool and extremely informative, particularly the bit about "heterosexuality" particularly as an identity being fairly new concepts. Really makes ya think.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago

When you view men and women as polar opposites and actively police and reinforce that men are from Mars and women are from Venus and that there cannot be anybody outside of these binarist categories, you end up with the majority of people being in a relationship with an alien who is deeply incapable of connecting to them. I feel that this is at the core of many of the conflicts that straight couples struggle with.

Which is why you get the paradox of men bemoaning the death of traditional relationships and the social tragedy of men unable to find partners, but then also producing “I hate my wife” and “marriage is a trap” memes. “This makes you happy and complete, but also it’s fundamentally incompatible with you” is a circle that can’t be squared.