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Non-Americans who have been to the US.. What is the weirdest thing about America that Americans don't realize is weird? (lemmy.world)

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (3 children)

That's very surprising. Where have you visited?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I’ve been to Montana, Texas, Florida, Seattle, and Tennessee and Las Vegas most recently. Also worked at a tourist town with lots of Americans for several months in Canmore and the Americans there seemed to have a similar attitude.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago

You're pretty much just missing Mississippi, New Jersey, and Boston and you'll have made a complete circuit of all the places with the most assholes. Hard luck.

[–] treadful 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

By chance do you experience this mostly at bars?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The only one that happened at a bar was in Montana.

[–] treadful 1 points 1 month ago

lol, that checks out for Montana

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah it’s very surprising to me as well. As a life-long resident of one of the states mentioned, having lived in both major cities as well and small-medium towns, I don’t think I’ve experienced this “aggression”

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Sometimes the base level of aggression or the base level of inflection is way higher than what you're locally tuned for.

Anecdotally I have found even business conversations with people from the US to be over the top. Especially through the sales cycle. There is a lot of hype that I need to adjust for in comparison to vendors in the UK, Europe and Asia.

It's not a bad thing, it's a social standard. I probably appear quiet reserved and shy by comparison.