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I sincerely appreciate the thoughtfulness of your reply. It sounds like you're a damn good person, and your mom was worth it as well.

I left out, but probably should have mentioned that even before the trump/MAGA stuff came into their lives, we had a deep divide due to a lot of trauma and issues they inflicted on me during my childhood. Both of my parents are different types of deep narcissists, with deeprooted religious beliefs that untether them from reality (e.g. they admitted they would kill me, my siblings, their grandchildren, etc. if they thought god told them to; that sort of thing). Neither of them gave me anything in life, didn't pay for anything really (my dad's child support was spent to keep my mom's side able to "not work", without much spent on me or my siblings), my mom chased a sibling around the dinner table with a steak knife trying to stab him (it wasn't until much later that she'd get medication to help with these episodes), and just generally all the awful normal stuff that happens between divorced parents that deeply, deeply, hate each other and are willing to burn the world down if it meant the other person wouldn't have a pot to piss in. This unfortunately included putting all of us through tons of abuse, court custody cases, CPS visits, police visits (I've had to have my fingerprints done I was 6 because of some serious shit that happened and they needed to isolate the prints that weren't me or another family members to find the culprit), etc. (like, seriously etc.+1000. I could go on for literal days with all the shit that they put me and my siblings through over the years. Haven't even scratched the surface).

The trump thing was a very large straw that broke the camel's back. They were already on thin ice as shitty human beings that refuse to apologize for the damage they did to me and my siblings over the years, and continue to do (I have one of my brother's living with me right now, because of them).

My relationship with my dad ended after he exploded and physically assaulted me in front of his home. I tried to reconcile and work with him through one of our siblings as a mediator and he flew off the handle again accusing me of disrespecting his authority (which was not just taking everything he tells me as "fact" and "morally correct" since I'm considered an "amoral atheist"...), at which point I cut him out of my life. I just don't need that shit added to everything else on my plate in life. He was never there for me, my friends were my family.

Anyhow, again, not to detract from your kind and optimistic reply. Anyone else in a different situation, I would encourage to take your advice.

For me though? Hopefully the context I've added starts to paint the picture of why that's a bridge too far. Even if we somehow got through/past all the trump nonsense, we still have all the above, and about 100x that which I just didn't want to burden a reader with going through all my trauma ;)