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Yeah I know dating apps bad etc

I paid 17 dollars for the week pass allowing me unlimited likes 💀 of course because I’m desperate and they force you into that choice because using it for free you only get 5 free likes a day lmao. The problem is NOBODY fucking responds back to my messages, I’ve had 2 conversations out of 20 matches, one of the convos died after I asked them out, the other convo just ended abruptly for no apparent reason. It’s really demoralizing to say the least but I just don’t understand, if they don’t like me and accidentally sent a like they should just unmatch right away but they don’t.

The future is grim. How does anyone meet anyone anymore?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

I been doing that although I pay less. I gotta say I've met a lot of people that way at least In the gym, haven't really met up with them outside of it but I'm always talking to people and and meeting people there

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I gotta say I've met a lot of people that way at least In the gym

My gym seems to be a completely non-social place. I've been going like 3-6 times a week for nearly 2 years and not one person has tried to strike up a conversation with me.

It sucks because it's like the one public place other than grocery shopping that I go regularly, is fun to go to, etc. But it seems either nobody goes there to socialize or I'm too unattractive for anyone to talk to me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Climbing gym or regular gym? Bouldering -> very social. Any other gym -> least social thing ever.

If you' re bouldering it's so easy to strike up conversation with people who are working on the same problems as you.

Separately I can't really comment on how you look obviously. I do however think that like, pretty much everyone benefits from trying to dress well in clothes that fit you, keep your hair well kept, trim nails, etc. I see your pronouns so like, I also think, as a woman, looks are less important than general vibe and confidence. Being confident is important. I care more about how a man makes me feel than how they look

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Climbing gym or regular gym? Bouldering -> very social. Any other gym -> least social thing ever.

regular gym. why are they such un-social places? lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Idk. Like, I barely look at anyone else in a regular gym. Everyone around me I see is listening to music and stuff. It just a very solo kinda thing unless you're doing some group activity