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Anyone have any advice on hating people less? (hexbear.net)

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Anyone have any advice on just kind of hating people in general less? I look at people, I know they’re huge on religious doctrines and societal models I have no place in, and I just can’t see any good in them worth considering. I try to go outside and connect with people, but everyone looks like a 4channer, or someone two slights away from becoming a 4channer. I can’t restrain the fear or loathing. It’s like the past twenty years have reduced my very capacity for compassion and my capacity to respect anyone period to molten slag.

Heteronormative society and all who uphold it fucking blow, but I’m expected to keep it in my pants re: how and when I take it out on them.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago

I for a long time thought of myself as an angry or even hateful person, but in the last few years I've realized it's because I love people generally that I can feel that way - when you have someone for their racism or sexism, it may help you to find peace if you consider that the reason it makes you hate is your love for those marginalized peoples.

When it comes to seeing people like that, I try to keep it mind "There but for the grace of God go I" - I'm in my late twenties and a white guy who grew up in rural America, had I not been exposed to leftist works during my schooling, it's very easy to imagine a world where I had fallen into very hateful ideologies. If you can see in others how they have ended up how they are, it's easier to understand them and maybe you'll still dislike or have them, but it's something you can pair with "I wish it didn't turn out this way for you."