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I am a ghost.
I'm extremely introverted and non-confrontational, so if a situation is too unpleasant or stressful, I vanish. It's what I've pretty much always done. I have no idea how many times I've had someone say to me, " Hey - what happened to you? I just looked around and you were gone."
It's sort of a trap. A lot of it is that, in addition to being introverted and generally non-confrontational, I'm hyper aware of people's emotions, so if I expect that they're going to be angry or hurt, I especially don't want to deal with it. But of course, then I introduce the chance that they're going to be angry or hurt because I "ghosted" them (or as it was most commonly known before the social media era, I "blew them off"). And yes - I feel bad about that.
All in all though, it's still generally less unpleasant than the alternatives.