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[–] [email protected] 78 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

You don't have to.

Anything really. No matter what your friends say, what your family says, you're not obligated to live your life in a way which is not comfortable for you. Or put yourself into situations you dislike just to please other's expectations.

Do it your way. Do your best to be a good person of course (according to whichever moral standard you hold). But do it your way.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

The word “No” is such a life-changer and it’s definitely something I learned to apply only recently. I grew up being told to be obedient. Parents demanded it and school enforced it. It made me into a people pleaser and it sucked having to do things that I did not enjoy simply because it was what was expected of me.

I’m still struggling with No but I’ve been trying everyday to keep saying No to things I don’t particularly like.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago

Apathy is also my old guy super power. Not about everything, just all the shit that doesn't matter.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Nice perspective man. It really gives you time to breath.