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I hate how every possible facial expression a black woman can make is mistook for aggression and "attitude" (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 20 hours ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Straight face only means I want to fight. Any kind of smiling is passive aggressive. Looking sad means I want to fight. And of course looking angry means I'm angry with you and specifically you and nothing else. The only way to Fix My Face is to just hide it entirely.

I really hate my ugly ass face for all other reasons, but being unable to order food in person without a cashier thinking I'm angry and willing to fight over the pettiest thing possible is the last straw.

I can't wait until I don't need to work anymore and I can just shut myself away from society and be a white vtuber or something. If I really want fast food then I'll do no contact delivery so the deliverer doesn't assume I'm angry at them for literally doing their job.

Can't even apologize for bumping into someone without them assuming I'm angry that they're in my very important way. Whoops, sorry, excuse me, doesn't matter what I said, it's passive aggressive and I want to fight.

Can't say anything is fine or okay, can't thank anyone, can't wish them a nice day, can't greet them, can't say anything without it being taken aggressively. And not saying anything at all is silent treatment, or passive aggression.

Can't thank anyone for a gift. Every holiday, I was "ungrateful" for everything. My smile was fake and the thank you was sarcastic. I hate holidays, birthdays, and gifts for that reason.

So many black women glorify this as "culture". I might as well be the only black woman who isn't petty, passive aggressive, or overly willing to fight someone. I really wish I had just died at birth since clearly something is wrong with me.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

So many black women glorify this as "culture". I might as well be the only black woman who isn't petty, passive aggressive, or overly willing to fight someone.

You hate that people think black women are overly aggressive, but you think it yourself about other black women?

[–] [email protected] 22 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I've been called just about every term for a black person that's white on the inside for NOT wanting to fight a fast food employee for forgetting sauce. Being polite is "acting white". Not finding passive aggression cool is being a pick me. I've been othered from every primarily black female group I've been in.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

wanting to fight a fast food employee for forgetting sauce

It's incredibly telling that this statement proves not what colour your skin is, but which country you live in

[–] [email protected] 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

If I moved out of the US would I be able to tell the cashier they forgot an item instead of exclusively ordering online and reporting through the app's support chat or email? I wish I could just speak without sounding and looking hostile

[–] [email protected] 6 points 18 hours ago

She's not saying she thinks it true, it's a bit worse than that imo. She's saying "many other people say it's true" which I have never heard before. Mignt just be me, but the people who say that are often people who intend to discriminate based on their personal beliefs.