this post was submitted on 23 Nov 2024
86 points (93.0% liked)

Ask Lemmy

27231 readers
2404 users here now

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have funDoxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spamPlease do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reasonJust remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either [email protected] or [email protected]. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email [email protected]. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


6) No US Politics.
Please don't post about current US Politics. If you need to do this, try [email protected] or [email protected]


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

Even if it wasn't so much "manipulative".

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] [email protected] 37 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Took me a while but I learned one of my managers is highly likely to shoot down any idea that isn't his. So during planning sessions I started describing partial ideas and pretending I didn't know how to solve the last leg of the problem so he could jump in and say, "Oh, what if we did..." Still kind of pisses me off I have to feign ignorance but since I started doing that things have gone way smoother.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

This is a good way to get your ideas implemented, but your manager is always going to be able to take credit. If you are able to develop a situation with your manager where they see you as equal or near equal, they won't mind if you bring them in on emails or meetings or whatever with their boss, so you can take the credit you are due. Extra credit if you get them to set up the call or meeting with the three of you and then you get to lay it out.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 weeks ago

Yeah the problem with that is that the basic reason that they are like that is they are threatened. They have a need they are addressing with shooting down ideas.

Brian would do better if he addressed that need. I would bet if he started attributing his own expertise to this manager, and started saying things like "wow I've learned so much from you" his ideas would be accepted and credited to him. Brian's success was due to his manager, after all.