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I find my queer male friends are willing to be intimate while straight male friends are very shut off and rarely open up. Generally. Of course there's exceptions.
Straight people even today live with the fear of being perceived as gay so there very closed off and distant.
everyone suffers in a global system of torture. even the beneficiaries
A system of oppression can only be a system of oppression and nothing else. It can oppress some less than others, but it can't ever free anyone.
Relatable
Careful spraying those broad generalizations everywhere, youβre making a mess.
I wouldn't say fear has much to do with it, just how most are raised. Not that it's a good thing that society is built like this mind you, just saying.
If a male friend starts touching me in a way that not even my own father did, I'm just midly uncomfortable. The last thing I'm thinking about is other peoples opinion on my sexuality. It's more about just not being used to it.
Tbh, unless I'm sexually attracted to the person, I find contact uncomfortable regardless of the sex. Probably not exactly healthy behavior but anyways.