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I am very new and very dumb. kitty-cri

Please give me directions that are /srs

I will most likely not detect sarcasm and struggle without explicit instructions. creature

I am on mobile currently. I'm supposed to be asleep. I am not asleep. I'm hyperfixated on new internet place.

I haven't quite figured out the UI yet but it might just not be optimized for mobile. Is there an app or should I just wait until I get back on my PC?

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Hello and welcome!

You can set your pronouns in top right hamburger menu - [your name] - settings, and then pronouns should be the first thing in the list. You need to scroll down a bit for the Save button.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Thank you!! I got it now!! There were so many :o

Was hoping I'd see mirror pronouns as an option, but it's ok!

Is there a way to request pronoun options?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 4 days ago

I believe you just have to DM one of the admins. I don't know who usually handles the pronouns, but @[email protected] would most likely be able to help doggirl-thumbsup

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 days ago

The pronoun option "mirror/your pronouns" are now available

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago

I'll ask in the mod chat

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Glad that got handled for you! Our admins are really good when it comes to this, the best.

If you don't mind, I've never encountered these pronouns and would want to hear your explanation for how to use them to address you!

Id also enjoy reading about the why/how for your pronouns, but I won't pry for that info. If you are the type to happily share such info, though, feel free!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Of course! If someone uses mirror pronouns, it just means they want to be referred to by whatever pronouns you use. If two people with mirror pronouns want to refer to each other, usually there are backup pronouns (my backup is they/them) to keep things from getting confusing xD

Not everyone will be comfortable using mirror pronouns because if you are dysphoric towards a particular gender, someone of the gender you're dysphoric with would refer to you with pronouns you're not comfortable with.

However, I consider myself agender, and while I don't want to be percieved as any particular gender, I also want to be friendlier with people and hope that "matching" the person I'm talking to will make developing friendships easier. creature

Other people may have different motivations, but that one is mine. Since I only get dysphoric when someone assumes I'm a gender they don't like (not even sure if that's dysphoria tbh) I'd rather just chameleon to whoever I'm talking to. party-blob

I'm speaking with someone who uses he/him? I'd prefer he uses he/him to describe me.
I'm speaking with someone who uses she/they? I'd prefer they use she/they to describe me.
This applies to every kind of pronoun.
[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

Not all at the same time haha But any of the ones you prefer are fine!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Thanks! That was a very nice description and a cool take on pronouns. Hope you enjoy your stay here at Hexbear!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago

Mirror pronouns have been added to the options now btw

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