i was trying to be tactful, respectful, and understanding by posting this thread for ppl to ask questions abt our beautiful hexbear. i didnt get any questions.
it took 4 hours for Ada, their admin, to respond. she locked the thread shortly after responding
her reply above was disheartening, as she seemed willing to work with us previously. equating ableism to a dunk tank post is just vile. and claiming the transphobia in 196 is “a specific event that occurred around a month ago” proves she didnt read any of our concerns. i didnt know abt that event, im sure most of us here dont. our concerns are rooted in the chasers of 196 (non-trans ppl who fetishize trans ppl). someone replied to her saying we were “concern-trolling”. is it that unbelievable that we care abt not having bigotry in the same space as us. i want to grab some of these users by the shoulders, shake them, and yell, “WE ARE BEING GENUINE. WE ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT PROVIDING A SAFE, SUPPORTIVE SPACE FOR ALL PEOPLE, AND YOUR COMMUNITY IS ALIENATING TRANS AND DISABLED PEOPLE!!”
responses were not very positive of us
they think this is a bit! lol, lmao even! this whole thing has me 
this chain of comments particularly upset me
“its a troll”. my pronouns are right next to my name, and “it” isnt one of them (even tho thats 100% a valid pronoun to prefer)
this one had me fully 
and the cherry on top warranted its own post https://hexbear.net/post/373453
downvotes are disabled on blahaj (and on hexbear)
I don't know specifically what comments you're referring to. I can't reply to everything on blahaj. I don't think this conversation is going anywhere so I'm just going to block and move on. Take care
there was no need for this, just ask to disengage and report them if they don't respect it???
it's a thing on hexbear, you specifically need to comment and say you're disengaging
you don't have to but it helps if the topic is heated or if someone is replying to you from multiple places in the thread.
I dunno that just seems a little harsh I don't think the argument was that bad
Not sure why it matters, but sure I'll use that. Disengage please
no, she's saying there's still some good people there. it's not a defense of the instance, just some of the users. I know they exist because they were getting heated with the 196 mod in the "hexbear defederated" thread, forcing that mod to revise history and pretend they were a smolbean that did nothing wrong. I think they'll be driven off the instance, personally, as the mod/admin teams are at best enabling a cryptofash mod to go unchecked.
nah there were plenty of trans people on blahaj that are just looking for a nice place to be, but blahaj is very hostile due to the amount of chasers that got invited on. best to be understanding. regardless the majority of trans people are socialist, so please keep that in mind when interacting too